83: Human Being Vs. Human Giver
Episode 83 Human Being vs. Human Giver
Show Notes
Tricia and Rob’s discussion on this podcast was prompted by a recent interview Tricia heard on Brene’ Brown’s podcast series, Unlocking Us, that featured a discussion on the book, Burnout, the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski. In her book, Nagoski specifically focuses on burnout and what it looks like, especially among women. One of the emotions Nagoski describes is called Human Giver Syndrome (initially described in Down Girl: the Logic of Misogyny): when one class of people, the human givers, are expected to offer their time, attention, affection and bodies, willingly and placidly to the other class of people, the human beings. Generally speaking, in our society, women are the Givers. In this episode, Tricia discusses the stressors that Givers can feel and how to release the stress that will get your body breathing deeply again. Rob and Tricia discuss several practical ways to relieve stress, based on advice from the experts: choose the music that helps you to release stress, or watch a movie that allows you to feel the emotions that are already brewing anyway, such as anger or sadness, or a great way is to release stress is simply to laugh!
Still feeling stressed? Try the “six-second kiss!’
Quotes
“’Beings’ just get to just ‘be.’ They are born with a light on their noggins of glory and hallelujah, they were “born to be.” – Tricia
“We givers are tired. We might even be approaching the space of…very tired.” –Tricia
“You can’t necessarily step away from the stressors. I mean…you gave birth to them. They’re staying.” – Tricia
“Be mindful of your ‘tone policing!’” – Rob
“If looking at that hard truth in the mirror causes you to feel uncomfortable, that might be the thing that we need to address.” – Tricia
“I dare say there is an inner Miss Piggy in most of us…” – Tricia
“Physical activity is what tells your brain that you have successfully survived the threat, and now your body is a safe place to live.” – Tricia, quoting
Sources Quoted (more information available on www.amazon.com or other booksellers)
Burnout: the Secret of Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski
Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny, by Kate Manne
Bossypants, by Tina Fey