#122 Mark Manson On How Your Concept Of Who You Are Is F*cking You Up

Published: May 14, 2019, 12:30 p.m.

This week’s guest on Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu is Mark Manson. Mark Manson is the New York Times bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck and the new book, Everything is Fucked: A Book About Hope. In this episode he talks about eating shit sandwiches, the importance of hope and how to peel away the layers of your values & identity.   This episode is sponsored by: Fundrise: Get your first 3 months of fees waived by going to fundrise.com/impact Wix: Click here to build YOUR website for free: https://www.wix.com/go/tombilyeu Skillshare. Start learning on Skillshare today with 2 free months at skillshare.com/impacttheory Blinkist. Visit www.blinkist.com/IMPACT to try out the premium service completely free for 7 days! ButcherBox. Use the discount code: "TOM" at butcherbox.com to get 20$ off and FREE BACON   SHOW NOTES: Why Mark Manson focuses on values rather than traditional metrics of success [3:01] What made Mark Manson change his focus from music to writing and why he “mourned” his change in career [8:03] How to establish a foundation of strong values for yourself (and why it matters) [10:19] How to decide what your beliefs should be in order to have a better life [14:24] Why you need to decide on your favorite flavor of “shit sandwich” [17:24] His description of Newton’s emotional laws and why you shouldn’t always trust your emotions [18:53] How to build your willpower so that you can do things that are difficult [22:38] “Our self worth equals the sum of our emotions over time” [28:06] How to create a new identity and sense of self (how do you find yourself in a moment of crisis?) [31:24] How to develop resilience and why you have a relationship with yourself just as you have a relationship with someone else & the difference between low and high self-esteem [32:44] How to peel back the layers that make up your sense of self [36:19] The truth about identity [40:27] Why you should always be challenging yourself [42:15] Why you should surround yourself with people who disagree with you [42:43] Where you can find out more about Mark Manson [43:29] The impact Mark Manson wants to have in the world [44:04] PEOPLE MENTIONED: Immanuel Kant [15:07] Sir Isaac Newton [18:53]   BOOKS MENTIONED: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck https://amzn.to/2HiXQsb Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope https://amzn.to/2LGE1iS