7 Painful Paradoxes of Self-Improvement that Create More Problems Than They Solve
A lot of the self-improvement industry and advice is backwards. The more books we read the further away from our goals we become.\n\nUltimately we want to be happier yet we are accruing more and more things to fix before we are happy with ourselves.\n\nIn this episode, we explore the biggest paradoxes where the work we do can make us more brittle and breakable:\n\n\nEffortlessness Paradox - The harder we try the harder we make it\n\nHappiness Paradox - Pursuing Happiness instead chases it away\n\nValidation paradox - Seeking external validation prevents internal validation\n\nEmotions paradox - Suppressing emotions makes them overwhelm us\n\nThe Shadow - Rejecting our flaws makes them worse\n\nPlanning Paradox - Overplanning reduces adaptability\n\nSelf-Improvement Paradox - The more things you find to fix the more broken you feel\n\n\nSearching and finding can be different things.\n\nWe learn a more subtle approach to self-improvement that spends more time building wisdom and focusing on smaller immediately actionable steps with less chasing and running in circles.\n\nWe find answers to the question "How do we balance the art of wanting to improve whilst also wanting to live in contentment in the present?"\n\n\nUpgrade to Premium:\n\U0001f3d6\ufe0f Ad-free listening\n\U0001f918 Support the show\n\U0001f513 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content\n\U0001f4ac Community Discord\n GrowthMindset.Supercast.com\n\n\nSponsors\n\U0001f959 Hello Fresh - America's #1 meal kit provider\n\n10 free meals across 7 boxes\n\nHelloFresh.com/FreeGrowthMindset\n\n\nGet in Touch\n\U0001f44b Free Call - Schedule Link\n\U0001f4e7 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com\n\n\nGrowth Mindset Psychology:\nSam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement.\n\U0001f4fa Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset)\n\U0001f6dc Website - GrowthMindsetPodcast.com\n\n\nChapters:\n00:00 The Effortlessness Paradox\n03:08 The Messy Reality of Self-Improvement\n04:23 Introduction to the Growth Mindset Psychology Podcast\n05:14 The Paradox of Pursuing Happiness\n07:49 The Paradox of Validation\n10:52 The Paradox of Emotions\n12:53 Carl Jung and the Shadow Concept\n13:49 Acceptance Over Rejection\n15:07 The Planning Paradox\n16:29 Understanding Uncertainty Tolerance\n16:47 Steve Jobs' Journey of Adaptability\n17:27 Embracing the Unexpected\n18:06 The Paradox of Self-Improvement\n18:44 The Dunning-Kruger Effect in Self-Help\n19:49 The Slow Process of Real Change\n22:12 Balancing Self-Improvement and Acceptance\n25:22 The Timid Cat Analogy for Happiness\n26:33 Final Thoughts and Farewell\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices