Sometimes we think what we’re thinking is so obvious that everyone must know it and we can’t figure out why they aren’t responding the way we want. Did you know that other people can’t hear your thoughts? It’s easy to forget that when we are emotional or passionate about something, not everyone else is in the same space as us.
Episode highlights:
02:30 No matter how much I want to think or project thoughts or feelings onto other people or get them to pick up on what I’m feeling – they cannot read my mind.
03:00 Others are living their own life living their own feelings and they cannot pick up on what we want if we don’t explicitly show them or tell them.
03:45 Empaths have a bigger problem with this phenomenon than other people because we/they feel like they are always picking up on others’ feelings.
04:30 Because not everyone else can pick up on feelings in the same way, and we have to use our words to share what we are feeling with others so that they can understand us better.
05:30 When we are shooting arrows at another person with our energy in an attempt to get them to stop, we perceive this as us yelling at them, even if we never opened our mouths.
06:30 When someone else is sending a lot of energy at you, they can’t perceive when you’re sending a lot of energy back at them because their dam is releasing and that’s what they are experiencing. They feel relief, even if for you, you feel annoyance or pain.
09:13 If we haven’t gotten comfortable telling people we are annoyed by the time we’re adults, we have a lot of baggage and preconceptions about how that act can be perceived and it becomes difficult for us.
10:10 We have to look out for ourselves and our boundaries, and we are also allowed to express them without taking responsibility for how the other person experiences your request. I recommend always approaching this with kindness.
12:00 We typically entrench meaning about what feeling a certain feeling means by the time we are adults, and then this flavors what we think other people think about us when we perceive them feeling that emotion.
Welcome to the full Spectrum Feeling Podcast. I'm your host, Blaze Schwaller, life coach and former tattoo artist. I help people heal their past, speak their truth to those they love, and learn how to feel ALL their emotions, so that they can live lives they love no matter what comes up. Join me here every week for conversations on how to live an imperfect but fully engaged life that embraces all the feels, so you can stretch into your best life while enjoying the you that's here now.