Seeking acknowledgment and praise is universal – and we often look for it outside of ourselves.
When I am frustrated that others aren’t noticing how much I’m sacrificing myself on their behalf, I now know to look within to notice where I’m not giving myself what I need and am looking for from them. I need to question why I believe I need to do what I am doing in order to have that.
If other people are a reflection of what I’m putting out in the world, it means that when I am not seeing love, respect, and appreciation from them, maybe it’s ME who isn’t putting respect love, and praise out there.
When you’re able to slow down and ask, “What am I radiating at this moment?” If I notice I am seething in frustration, then it’s no wonder that I see frustration and anger everywhere around me. What does it take to turn that moment around and make space to feel something else?
Often it requires allowing yourself to feel exactly how you are without sending it away from yourself. It takes ownership of your experience and allows you to breathe through the emotion as you continue on with life.
I use mindfulness to watch myself and describe what I am doing at the moment without trying to alter it.
For example, I might be a person out for a walk in the sunshine where the wind is cold and my cheeks hurt, and I am feeling pissed off and waking very fast. When I can just be with myself as an impartial observer of my thoughts and feelings, it moves through faster and often I see the answer of what to do to help me feel better and give myself what I need and really wanted.
Welcome to the full Spectrum Feeling Podcast. I'm your host, Blaze Schwaller, life coach and former tattoo artist. I help people heal their past, speak their truth to those they love, and learn how to feel ALL their emotions, so that they can live lives they love no matter what comes up. Join me here every week for conversations on how to live an imperfect but fully engaged life that embraces all the feels, so you can stretch into your best life while enjoying the you that's here now.