What does worthiness mean? Is it about what you earn? Is it about what you allow into your life or strive for? How can we instill worthiness in each other and in ourselves?
Episode Highlights
00:45 There are so many unconscious beliefs that get in the way of feeling worthy and that communicate that worthiness is contingent on earning something.
01:30 I ask myself, “Am I supposed to be doing this?” “Am I supposed to avoid doing that?” “Should I have this, or go here, or ask first?”
02:00 We interpret our worth through the lens of earning. If I work harder, then someone will notice that and reward me for it.
02:30 We have tiers in society based on how much you earn that are gateways to what you can afford, where you can go, and what you can get away with or do.
03:00 Is inner acceptance different from worthiness? Is worthiness more about earning and proving?
04:00 How can we simultaneously want to teach everyone that we all belong when clearly that isn’t the case in our society at all?
04:30 Trying to belong and be worthy leads us to fake it til we make it, which leads to feeling like an imposter in our own lives.
05:00 The only person I can teach worthiness to is myself.
05:15 I can only lead through example and I can’t make anyone else feel what I want them to feel.
07:00 My own unworthiness has to do with fear of disappointing others.
08:00 When we feel like we failed at the expectations of others who we respect and care about, shame consumes us and we don’t want to show our face.
09:30 What do we need as a distraction to shake us out of our shame and help us feel acceptable and part of the team again?
10:00 It’s not that other people are judging us constantly, it’s that we do it for them by judging ourselves.
11:30 As human beings we experience the world through our own senses and self-centeredness.
12:40 Feeling unworthy has a lot to do with grieving that we missed an opportunity to do life better than we just did and fearing we won’t get another chance.
13:30 Obstacles are a part of life and it’s OK to look at your life and say, well, this is a mess! And then find a way beyond or with the obstacles.
14:30 This is just a situation. It has nothing to do with me, or what I did. This just is what’s happening right now.
15:00 Once you’ve handled the situation, you don’t need to hide behind the kitchen counter anymore.
15:50 The human condition seems to have us so primed to be concerned about everything and filled with angst about what we want.
17:40 Do you think of worthiness in terms of belonging, earning, accepting, or something else?
Welcome to the full Spectrum Feeling Podcast. I'm your host, Blaze Schwaller, life coach and former tattoo artist. I help people heal their past, speak their truth to those they love, and learn how to feel ALL their emotions, so that they can live lives they love no matter what comes up. Join me here every week for conversations on how to live an imperfect but fully engaged life that embraces all the feels, so you can stretch into your best life while enjoying the you that's here now.