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Published: Nov. 13, 2019, 1 p.m.

You feel like a burden.

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You feel like you\u2019re carrying heavy baggage into your relationship.

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You feel like others around you don\u2019t always want to be around you.

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Can you relate to any of these limiting beliefs?

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Welcome to the 1st episode of \u201cNotes To Self\u201d, a segment of Found Family Podcast. \u201cNotes To Self\u201d are literally notes that I\u2019ve written to myself on the Notes app on my iPhone where I admit my worst fears, talk about my triggers, and word vomit limiting beliefs as well as life-changing revelations on my recovery journey. Get ready to REAL talk, girl. Coz shit\u2019s about to get real.

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The truth is, I want my boyfriend and my friends to think that \u201cI have my shit together\u201d. So, one of the Notes that I left myself on March 14th says this: \u201cI see myself as a burden to other people. Anytime that I feel like the luggage I bring into the relationship is too heavy or not something that someone would want to \u201cdeal with\u201d I get anxious. I think this is because my mom made me feel like a burden. Example: she\u2019d buy me something and then make me feel like it was something that took away time and energy for her so I\u2019d feel badly about it, even if I didn\u2019t even want the thing to begin with\u201d

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Woof. That\u2019s deep.

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Why do you feel like you\u2019re a burden?

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What deeper issue is rooted under the layer of you feeling this way?

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Here are some of the things we\u2019ll soul chat about today:

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• Took away my power, took away my voice, took away my options
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• Luggage will inevitably be brought into your relationships. They key here is ACCEPTING the luggage and understanding that you have the power to \u201cunpack\u201d the luggage and \u201cswap\u201d things in the luggage.
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• Guilt and shame are LEARNED.
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• Self awareness is the most important THING in transformation
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PS CORRECTION WHEN I GET TO THE PART ABOUT DINOSAURS (you\u2019ll get it when you listen) Paleontology is the study of fossils, while archaeology is the study of human artifacts and remains.

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Find me on Twitter: @FoundFamilyPod | Personal: @ElisabethVibes

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