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Overcoming People-Pleasing: Prioritize Yourself and Set Boundaries

Published: April 16, 2024, 9 a.m.

Episode Summary:

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In this episode of "Express Your Wonders," host Bronwyn Corkery explores the topic of people-pleasing and its impact on mental health. She discusses the traits of people-pleasers, the root causes of this behavior, and the negative effects it can have on relationships and self-worth. Bronwyn offers practical tips for setting boundaries, saying no, and embracing discomfort to break free from people-pleasing habits. Listeners are encouraged to prioritize their own needs and celebrate their progress in becoming less of a people-pleaser.

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Key Takeaways:

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  • Developing People pleaser habits can be different from person to person. It commonly comes from issues like low self-esteem, or fear of rejection.\xa0 It can also stem from cultural expectations, or trauma you\u2019ve dealt with in your past.
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  • Recognizing issues from your past and connecting them to your habits of pleasing others is a first step toward changing your behaviors to honor your own needs.
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  • There are negative effects on your mental health when you live with people pleasing habits.\xa0 It can cause anger, frustration, burnout, weakened relationships, stress and anxiety and loss of self-identity and can lead to depression.\xa0 Noticing these negative signs is another important step in changing your habits and freeing yourself.
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  • When it comes to your mental health, it is not selfish at all to prioritize yourself.\xa0 It\u2019s actually necessary for a healthier, happier life, that you are worthy of, and in the end makes everyone around you even happier.
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  • When you put everyone before yourself, you are deciding that they are more important than you, and that\u2019s one of those false lies that we learn to believe at a pretty young age, and it really isn\u2019t true.
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  • Setting boundaries is an important part of the process of overcoming people pleasing habits.
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  • If something doesn\u2019t align with who you are or what your priorities are, you\u2019ll have to decide what your boundary is and prepare yourself ahead.
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  • If it\u2019s really hard for you, and you just can\u2019t get started with setting boundaries to change people pleasing patterns, consider talking to a therapist or counselor.\xa0 Professional support can give you some real valuable guidance and encouragement.\xa0\xa0
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  • Setting boundaries could feel really uncomfortable at first, but it\u2019s really important, and as with anything new, the more you practice, the easier it will get.\xa0\xa0
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  • Remember to be kind to yourself.\xa0 When you start to get self critical, turn that around with more supportive and understanding thoughts.\xa0 You\u2019re doing the best you can, and that is enough.\xa0
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