#60: From Surviving to Thriving: How to Raise Compassionate and Resilient Children with Deena Margolin

Published: June 20, 2019, 10 a.m.

b'Big feelings are part of life. In fact, there are times when everyone will feel sad, angry, hurt, and disappointed. When it comes to helping our children process big feelings, we want to help them discover their natural strengths and build new tools for looking inside, making sense of what they are experiencing, and internalizing new ways to approach challenges and stress.\\nOn today\\u2019s Broken Brain Podcast, our host, Dhru, talks to Deena Margolin, a marriage and family therapist and mindfulness teacher in Los Angeles who works primarily with children and families. Trained in the field of Interpersonal Neurobiology, Deena explores how the mind, brain, and our relationships come together to shape who we become\\u2014and how we can harness the potential of neuroplasticity, the mind\\u2019s incredible ability to change throughout the lifespan, to grow healthier and happier.\\nIn this episode, Dhru and Deena talk about how trauma impacts the development of a child and their future stress response. They discuss how stress impacts our survival system, how to help your child regulate their nervous systems in a hard moment, and understanding what\\u2019s really driving our child\\u2019s behavior. They also talk about how parenting is about being present, not perfect, and how to raise resilient and mindful kids.\\nIn this episode, we dive into:\\n-How Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) impact the development of a child (2:50)\\n-The connection between a high ACEs score and the likelihood of developing a chronic disease (4:32)\\n-How trauma impacts the brain (6:11)\\n-The four F\\u2019s of survival (8:39)\\n-What can happen when trauma gets stored in the body (9:50)\\n-The three pillars to help kids build resilient qualities (19:48)\\n-How nonverbal communication can trigger your child\\u2019s own threat state (26:08)\\n-Time out vs. time in and creating a safe space for big feelings (41:15)\\n-The power of pause when your feeling angry, confused, or overwhelmed (1:00:47)\\n-Modern day parenting (1:07:09)\\n-Learn more about Deena and her work (1:10:21)\\n-Deena\\u2019s book recommendations (1:11:10)\\nFor more on Deena, be sure to follow her on Instagram @deenamargolin and check out her website http://www.deenamargolin.com.\\nSponsor: This episode is sponsored by our partnership with the AirDoctor Air Filter. To get exclusive access to this deal visit www.brokenbrain.com/filter\\nInterested in joining Dhru\\u2019s\\xa0Broken Brain Podcast\\xa0Facebook Community? Submit your join request here:\\xa0https://www.facebook.com/groups/2819627591487473/\\nFor more on Dhru Purohit, be sure to follow him on Instagram\\xa0@dhrupurohit, on Facebook\\xa0@dhruxpurohit, on Twitter\\xa0@dhrupurohit, and on YouTube\\xa0@dhrupurohit. You can also text Dhru at\\xa0(302) 200-5643\\xa0or click here\\xa0https://my.community.com/dhrupurohit\\n Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'