Cilveku ipasa "valoda" - asaras: ka tas rodas un kapec tas ir gruti apspiest
b'Asaras ir v\\u0101rdi, kurus m\\u016bsu sirds cit\\u0101di nesp\\u0113j izteikt. \\u0160is cit\\u0101ts lieliski raksturo \\u0161o tikai cilv\\u0113kam piem\\u012bto\\u0161o \\u012bpa\\u0161o sp\\u0113ju raud\\u0101t.\\xa0Asar\\u0101m ir \\u012bpa\\u0161s sast\\u0101vs un t\\u0101s ne velti po\\u0113tiski d\\u0113v\\u0113 par dv\\u0113seles spoguli. T\\u0101s ir gr\\u016bti apspiest, gr\\u016bti not\\u0113lot un t\\u0101 ir "valoda", kuru saprot ikviens. K\\u0101 rodas asaras? K\\u0101p\\u0113c cilv\\u0113ki ir vien\\u012bgie z\\u012bd\\u012bt\\u0101ji, kas raud, k\\u0101p\\u0113c m\\u0113s raudam un k\\u0101p\\u0113c asaras ir tik ne\\u0113rtas sabiedr\\u012bb\\u0101, skaidro Latvijas Universit\\u0101tes asoci\\u0113t\\u0101 profesore L\\u012bga Ozoli\\u0146a-Molla un kognit\\u012bvi biheivior\\u0101l\\u0101 psihoterapeite,\\xa0kl\\u012bnisk\\u0101 psiholo\\u0123e\\xa0Marija \\u0100belti\\u0146a.\\n\\n"Bie\\u017ei vien asaras visp\\u0101r tiek asoci\\u0113tas ar to, vi\\u0146as sag\\u0101d\\u0101 atvieglojumu. Bet es gribu uzreiz teikt ka t\\u0101 glu\\u017ei nav. Vi\\u0146as var b\\u016bt tie\\u0161\\u0101m \\u013coti da\\u017e\\u0101das. Ir situ\\u0101cijas, kad asaru neesam\\u012bba sag\\u0101d\\u0101 atvieglojumu un tie\\u0161i otr\\u0101d\\u0101k - asaras pa\\u0161as par sevi var sag\\u0101d\\u0101t v\\u0113l liel\\u0101ku, piem\\u0113ram, garast\\u0101vok\\u013ca kritienu," skaidro Marija \\u0100belti\\u0146a.\\n\\n"Pie noteiktiem ment\\u0101l\\u0101s vesel\\u012bbas trauc\\u0113jumiem, pie depresivit\\u0101tes vai ar\\u012b pie lielas trauksmain\\u012bbas, kas jau sasniedz t\\u0101du kl\\u012bnisko l\\u012bmeni, nereti raud\\u0101\\u0161ana varb\\u016bt pat vair\\u0101k kaut k\\u0101dos gad\\u012bjumos, un vi\\u0146a nesniedz to atvieglojumu. Vai ar\\u012b tas, ko saka, ka cilv\\u0113ki rauj uz iek\\u0161u, vi\\u0146i neraud ar asar\\u0101m, bet iek\\u0161\\u0113ji, notiek \\u013coti daudzi procesi, kurus ir \\u013coti gr\\u016bti t\\u0101 k\\u0101 izpaust. Tas ar\\u012b var nu kaut k\\u0101dos mirk\\u013cos noz\\u012bm\\u0113t priek\\u0161 mums t\\u0101dus smag\\u0101kus p\\u0101rdz\\u012bvojumus un ar\\u012b nesp\\u0113ju sa\\u0146emt pal\\u012bdz\\u012bbu no citiem cilv\\u0113kiem, ko \\u0161\\u012b raud\\u0101\\u0161ana bie\\u017ei vien dod un ko citi cilv\\u0113ki var ar\\u012b nolas\\u012bt, tai skait\\u0101 tuvinieki.\\xa0\\n\\n\\nT\\u0101p\\u0113c es teiktu t\\u0101, ka raud\\u0101\\u0161ana var b\\u016bt \\u013coti da\\u017e\\u0101da un m\\u0113s varam raud\\u0101t gan no dusm\\u0101m,\\xa0k\\u0101 t\\u0101ds protests. M\\u0113s varam raud\\u0101t b\\u0113d\\u012bgo emociju d\\u0113\\u013c, skumj\\u0101m. Un ir tas, ka m\\u0113s esam tik \\u013coti bezsp\\u0113c\\u012bgi vai tik \\u013coti izsmelti, ka m\\u0113s vairs nevaram t\\u0101 fiziski paraud\\u0101t, un tas ir tas, ko ar\\u012b da\\u017ek\\u0101rt ir nedziedin\\u0101mi slimi cilv\\u0113ki saka, ka ir kaut k\\u0101ds mirklis, kad es vairs nesp\\u0113ju raud\\u0101t.\\xa0\\n\\n\\nUn protams, ka tas, k\\u0101 m\\u0113s pa\\u0161i priek\\u0161 sevis komunic\\u0113jam, vai es dr\\u012bkstu vai nedr\\u012bkstu raud\\u0101t, tam ar\\u012b ir noz\\u012bme. Un ko par mums saka ar\\u012b citi cilv\\u0113ki: par m\\u016bsu vecumu, poz\\u012bciju sabiedr\\u012bb\\u0101 vai profesij\\u0101, vai dzimumu. Vai m\\u0113s dr\\u012bkstam, vai m\\u0113s nedr\\u012bkstam [raud\\u0101t].\\xa0\\n\\n\\nJa m\\u0113s blo\\u0137\\u0113jam kaut k\\u0101das emocijas, pavisam vi\\u0146as nepau\\u017eam, jo ir situ\\u0101cijas, kur m\\u0113s nevaram aprobe\\u017eoties, bet j\\u0101pagaida kaut k\\u0101ds laiks un t\\u0101dus dro\\u0161\\u0101kus apst\\u0101k\\u013cus. Bet, ja m\\u0113s pavisam vi\\u0146as nospie\\u017eam, tad, protams, ar\\u012b rodas da\\u017e\\u0101das sekas, kas var b\\u016bt \\u013coti negat\\u012bvas."'