Episode 127 – Being Open to Change
“One of the things that I had much trouble with is, changing how I acted my feelings and attitudes internally. Because the story I lived for decades with depression and one of the consequences of that was, I felt not good enough. But beyond that, one of the ways that manifested was, I was already supposed to have done stuff. If there was anything wrong with any situation with the kids or with the spouse, or with anything I was already supposed to have seen it, I predicted it, fixed it, fixed it, or was on the way to fixing it. I was supposed to do that. And if I didn't do that, I had failed.” - Kellan Fluckiger
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What you are about to learn
Change is happening every day, and we cannot prevent it from happening, they say that the only constant thing is CHANGE. Change, change change. Some of the transformations are amazing, and they're beautiful. But that's all about change. And that's almost always changing the old for the new, creating something better from what it is. Now, something's old. And that's not a surprise since you came from a divine source, your child of God. And so all life, including us, were attracted to light. And that change that we feel a desire to do is inherent in all of us. The issue will occur if we don’t like the change if there’s something that’s happening, but we don’t like it, we don’t feel it, and we are having trouble accepting it. The point of this podcast is about creating your ultimate life so unless you're living the absolute joy of life, a life of prosperity purpose, enjoy right now, which you might be unless you're living right that like that right now and have nothing you want to change, then this being open to change is for you.
Some changes may be right, some may be bad. Maybe when you've been resisting when you've been fighting when you haven't been open to haven't been willing to do, what would what direction change would you need to make right now to take the first step. So think of a difference that you'd like to make right now. Maybe it's a relationship, a decision on your career, or Something at work or your finances. What directional change can you make right now? That would be the first step in that direction. Pick the change. Think about it genuinely make sure that, that is what you want to change. I've picked it. I know what it is. I said it. This is it. Now, what's the change the little change you can make right now? That change of direction? Will it have a high impact on your life? To others around you? To yourself? If you think that there is.
Next is your commitment. Are you willing to do that? Are you open to change? Are you open to doing something different? I don't have to be perfect. I'm never perfect. I can be pleased and am now I finally learned how to be very, very happy content, deeply at peace which I never used to be able to feel deeply at peace with where I am, and at the same time, have a half a dozen things that I'm working on doing because I want to, but the driver isn't guilt, shame or anything negative, or any feeling like I should already be there. It's just a desire to have been doing or something, have been, or do something different. Changing mostly for us to have our ultimate life, and we are making this decision because we want to have the joy and inner peace. So, creating that one thing you want to change right now, and figuring out what the first little step is to do that, and then making a commitment to yourself to do it. Remember, when you make that commitment, you're going to fail, you're going to flop sometimes, and so making sure that you are okay, with the idea that you're going to bounce sometimes you're going to fall off the change wagon for a minute will be okay for you.
Now the tricky part is maintaining part of this commitment for a change. You have the determination, but are you willing to keep it? Maintain in a sense that you’re embracing it, you will never fail and will never stop until you reach your goal. Until you fully see that the change made sense to your life. What I have learned to do is to say, you know what, this is where I was and what I was doing. I've decided to try something new. Because what I was doing before didn't work. So the distinction becomes, Did it work? Can I find something that works better? So it’s doing it work or not work as opposed not to work is terrible, therefore, you are mistaken. And you know, I had this big label of you suck, okay, wrong and you suck. That is not a good driver. I never found it to be a good driver for change.
Key takeaways
“Suppose we don't change anything. Nothing changes, right? You won't get any closer to goals, and you'll stay right where you are. If you're happy where you are, then you're good. If you're not, you got to make some changes. Because the road you're on doesn't go where you want it to. If you want something new, then you have to change direction.”
“What can I learn here? An attitude of humility means it's okay not to know. It's okay not to be there. It's okay to stumble. It's okay to fall, and it's okay to make mistakes. I have learned to say, “you know what, this is where I was and what I was doing. I've decided to try something new.” Because what I was doing before didn't work. So the distinction becomes, Did it work? Can I find something that works better?”
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