SYPM 019: Why are you always so angry?
b'One day Iris took her daughter to the park, with enough snacks with for both of them.\\xa0 When Iris got hungry, she asked her daughter to share some of the food - but her daughter refused.\\xa0 Iris knows that hunger is a factor that dramatically narrows her Window of Tolerance and makes it more likely that she\\u2019ll snap at her child\\u2019s behavior, so she asked again for food and again her daughter refused.\\n\\n \\n\\nThen out of nowhere a crow swooped down and tried to steal some of the food, causing the whole lot to fall on the ground - and Iris exploded.\\xa0 She was so angry that she felt a hot energy coming from her gut, and her daughter is standing in the park with tears flooding down her face, because Iris yelled at her.\\n\\n \\n\\nAnd then, of course, the guilt and shame spiral begins: \\u201cWhat am I doing?\\xa0 Why am I so angry?\\xa0 And why can\\u2019t I stop?\\u201d\\n\\n \\n\\nNow, Iris is in a very different place.\\xa0 She\\u2019s not perfect, of course - none of us are.\\xa0 But even Iris, the raised-Catholic-and-prone-to-unworthiness-and-guilt-tripping specialist, has found a different path.\\xa0\\xa0\\n\\n \\n\\nShe no longer has to convince herself that she\\u2019s worthy of having her needs met - she knows she is, and she holds her own needs with equal care as her daughter\\u2019s needs.\\n\\n \\n\\nBecause her needs are met on a regular basis, she\\u2019s able to respond to her daughter\\u2019s age-appropriate difficult behavior with compassion and empathy.\\n\\n \\n\\nAnd because she\\u2019s able to do this most of the time, she doesn\\u2019t need to get into the guilt and shame spiral nearly as often.\\xa0 (And on the few occasions when it does still happen, she knows how to treat herself with compassion as well, instead of beating herself up for screwing up.)\\n\\n \\n\\nDo you want to make this kind of shift in your own life?\\xa0 Do you often feel triggered by your child\\u2019s behavior?\\xa0 My Taming Your Triggers workshop, which has helped thousands of parents to not just remember a new script for the difficult moments, but to truly take on a new way of being in their relationships with their children - just like Iris has done.\\n\\n \\n\\nJoin the waitlist to be notified when doors reopen.\\n\\n \\n\\n\\n\\n \\n\\n \\n\\n \\n