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b'When you\\u2019re learning a new skill, information is critical.\\xa0 Without that, it\\u2019s very difficult to make any kind of meaningful change.\\n\\n \\n\\nBut I see a parallel between learning new skills and respectful parenting: I like to say that love between parent and child is necessary but not sufficient - and that respect is the missing ingredient.\\xa0 With learning a new skill, knowledge is necessary - but not sufficient.\\n\\n \\n\\nAnd support is the missing ingredient.\\n\\n \\n\\nYou might remember from our conversation with Dr. Chris Niebauer a while ago that our overactive left brains tend to make up stories about our experiences to integrate these experiences into the narratives we tell about ourselves.\\n\\n \\n\\nIf we\\u2019re \\u201cthe kind of person who triumphs through adversity,\\u201d a setback will be taken in stride.\\xa0 If we\\u2019re \\u201cthe kind of person who has been hurt,\\u201d each new individual hurt makes much more of a mark.\\xa0 The new experiences have to be made to fit with the framework that\\u2019s already in place.\\n\\n \\n\\nEspecially when you\\u2019re learning a skill related to difficult experiences you\\u2019ve had, your left brain wants to keep itself safe.\\xa0 It might tell you: \\u201cI don\\u2019t need to do this.\\xa0 Things aren\\u2019t that bad.\\xa0 I\\u2019ll just wait until later / tomorrow / next week.\\u201d\\n\\n \\n\\nAnd when that happens, you need support.\\xa0 That support can be from a great friend, although sometimes you don\\u2019t want even your closest friends to know that you shout at or smack your child.\\n\\n \\n\\nTherapy can be really helpful - but it\\u2019s also really expensive.\\n\\n \\n\\nSometimes the thing that\\u2019s most helpful is someone who\\u2019s learning the tools alongside you (so they aren\\u2019t trying to look back and remember what it was like to be in your situation; theirs is different, but they are struggling too\\u2026) who isn\\u2019t a regular presence in your life.\\n\\n \\n\\nThere\\u2019s no danger you\\u2019re going to run into them at the supermarket, or a kid\\u2019s birthday party.\\n\\n \\n\\nYou can actually be really honest with them and know it won\\u2019t come and bite you in the butt.\\n\\n \\n\\nThat\\u2019s what today\\u2019s guests, Marci and Elizabeth, discovered when they started working together.\\xa0 Separated by cultural differences, fourteen(!) time zones, and very different lives, they found common ground in their struggles and have developed a deep and lasting friendship.\\n\\n \\n\\nIf you\\u2019d like to work on taming your triggered feelings - and get help from your own Accountabuddy in the process - the Taming Your Triggers workshop is for you. Join the waitlist to be notified when doors reopen.\\n\\n \\n\\n\\n\\n \\n\\n '