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b'When we\'re having a hard time interacting with our family members, it\'s pretty common for our first reaction to be: "I need this person (or these people!) to change their behavior" - especially when this person (or these people!) are children.\\xa0 After all, we\'ve been around for longer and we know what we\'re doing and we were fine before our children started misbehaving, right?\\n\\n \\n\\nMy guest today, parent-of-three Chrystal, had encountered this mentality not just about her children, but also about her husband.\\xa0 In fact, when she went to couple\'s therapy with her husband it was with a sense of relief: "Finally, I\'m going to find out what\'s wrong with him, because there\'s nothing wrong with me!"\\n\\n \\n\\nShe always figured: "If that person didn\'t act like that then I wouldn\'t need to react the way I\'m reacting...and I legitimately thought that everyone else was responsible for my behavior."\\n\\n \\n\\nThen she realized that her husband wasn\'t responsible for how she was feeling...she was.\\n\\n \\n\\nNow she was ready to make the same leap related to her relationship with her spirited children, but needed new tools.\\xa0 They would melt down over every tiny issue (not enough honey on the oatmeal!\\xa0 Now not enough cream!\\xa0 I don\'t WANT to get dressed!), and Chrystal found herself constantly scrambling to placate them.\\n\\n \\n\\nJoin us for a conversation about the new ideas she\'s learned, and how her children now don\'t cooperate blindly because she\'s forcing them, but express their agency while finding ways to collaborate that also meet their needs.\\xa0 They have real agency in her family (they know she\'ll hear them and respect their ideas) and because of this, the little issues that used to provoke regular meltdowns are easily solved.\\xa0 And Chrystal is learning how to set boundaries so she doesn\'t get walked all over - by her children, or by other members of her family.\\n\\n \\n\\nWant to make a similar shift in your own interactions with your children?\\xa0 My Taming Your Triggers workshop will help. Join the waitlist to be notified when doors reopen.\\n\\n \\n\\n \\n\\n\\n\\n \\n\\n \\n

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• (01:00) Inviting listeners to join the Taming Your Triggers workshop
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• (04:43) A little bit about Chrystal
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• (11:06) Chrystal\\u2019s journey as a parent
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• (13:58) How Chrystal found it difficult to build lasting relationships with parents who were raising their children the same way they were raised and how she found her people in the Taming Your Triggers community.
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• (16:32) The fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses and how Chrystal resonated to the fawn response.
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• (18:22) The first time Chrystal was able to connect what she\\u2019s feeling in her body with her belief systems
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• (20:36) As the eldest of eight children, Chrystal felt that it was her responsibility to make sure everyone is happy when her mother couldn\\u2019t cope due to severe postnatal depression, and this has continued on with her character now that they\\u2019ve grown up
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• (24:51)\\xa0 When Chrystal decided to set boundaries and have it respected, she found out that her family\\u2019s issues can resolve themselves without her...'