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Why do we yell at our children - even when we know we shouldn\'t?
\\nWhy isn\'t just knowing what to do enough to actually interact with our children in a way that aligns with our values?
\\nFor many of us, the reason we struggle to actually implement the ideas we know we want to use is because we\'ve experienced trauma in our lives. This may be the overt kind that we can objectively say was traumatic (divorce, abuse, death among close family members...), or it may simply be the additive effect of having our needs disregarded over and over again by the people who were supposed to protect us.
\\nThese experiences cause us to feel \'triggered\' by our children\'s behavior - because their mess and lack of manners and resistance remind us subconsciously of the ways that we were punished as children for doing very similar things. These feelings don\'t just show up in our brains, they also have deep connections to our bodies (in spite of the Western idea that the body and brain are essentially separate!).
\\nIf we don\'t decide to take a different path and learn new tools to enable us to respond effectively to our child rather than reacting in the heat of the moment, and because our physical experience is so central to how this trauma shows up in our daily lives, we also need to understand and process this trauma through our bodies.
\\nIf you need help understanding the source of your triggered feelings and learning new ways to navigate them so you can feel triggered less often, my popular and highly effective Taming Your Triggers workshop will be open soon. Sliding scale pricing will be available, and the community will meet on a platform that isn\'t Facebook! Join the waitlist to be notified when doors reopen.
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