113: No Self, No Problem
b'If you heard the recent episode on Parental Burnout, you\'ll know that our identities can become really confusing when we become parents, especially for women.\\xa0 On one hand, society tells us that we have to work hard and do well so we can Achieve The Dream.\\xa0 And on the other hand, we\'re told that a Good Mother sacrifices everything for her child - including her career.\\xa0 So what is a parent to do?\\n\\nThis episode brings together a couple of strands of my life that have been existing in parallel for a few months now. A friend of mine introduced me to meditation as a tool that I might find useful to explore when I was struggling with some personal issues. Not only did I find it interesting, but I also found elements of it that helped me to make sense of the situation I was in in a way that I had not been able to do until that point.\\n\\n \\n\\nLike a lot of people, I had the common perception that meditation consists of sitting quietly on the floor cross-legged with thumb and pointing finger touching, saying \\u2018ommmm\\u2019 but when I looked into the research on mindfulness stress reduction that perception went away pretty fast. It had been shown in the scientific literature to be enormously helpful to people not just in reducing stress but also in reducing the severity of physical symptoms in the body that accompany stress.\\n\\n \\n\\nBut I was still having a hard time reconciling the thousands of scientific research papers I\\u2019ve read over the years on how children\\u2019s brains develop and some of these new ideas I was learning related mindfulness. And so that is kind of how I discovered Dr. Chris Niebauer and his book No Self, No Problem. After reading it I was able to reconcile those two strands - the psychological research and mindfulness - and I want to share that with you.\\xa0 Along the way, we\'ll gain an understanding of the mind that may help us to overcome some of the challenges associated with Parental Burnout - so even if you\'re not officially (clinically) suffering from burnout, this episode could still help you to better reconcile the different aspects of your life and identity.\\n\\n \\n
\\nTaming Your Triggers
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\\nIt\\u2019s a 10-week workshop with one module delivered every week, an amazing community of like-minded parents, a match with an AccountaBuddy to help you complete the workshop, and mini-mindfulness practices to re-ground yourself repeatedly during your days, so you\\u2019re less reactive and more able to collaborate with your children. Join the waitlist to be notified when doors reopen.\\n\\n \\n\\n \\n\\n\\n\\n \\n\\n \\n\\nDr. Chris Niebauer\'s book\\n\\nNo self, no problem - Affiliate link\\n\\n \\n\\n \\n\\n[accordion]\\n\\n[accordion-item title="Click here to read the full transcript"]\\n\\nJen 1:45\\n\\nHello, and welcome to the Your Parenting Mojo podcast. I\'m really excited about today\'s topic because it brings together a couple of strands of my life that have been existing in parallel for a few months and they\'re now beginning to interweave themselves in the most interesting, useful and exciting ways. I\'ve been struggling with some personal issues for several months and a friend introduced me to meditation, not specifically as a way to help me through it, but more of a useful tool that I might find interesting to explore. And I did find it interesting. And I also found the elements of it...'