Your Iconic Image : Two Giant Steps for Success
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Martin Brossman, business - Martin Brossman & Associates LLC
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Everything had to be perfect\\u2026and in having your own business that became a problem because you have to know the difference between making it very accurate and good enough to get out the door.
If you were a graphic designer, you probably should spend quite a bit of time on your first impression of images for graphic design\\u2026then learning to let some of the other things go is critical.
Our time really is money.
It\\u2019s the aim, aim, aim, aim, aim consider firing someday approach.
It can also be used as a tool not to face failure.\\xa0 One of the most important muscles to develop is\\u2026the ability to fail and recover quickly.
Fail fast.\\xa0 Fail often. \\xa0
Take small calculated risks where you can afford the consequences.
It doesn\\u2019t mean in those experiences of failure you don\\u2019t have a moment of \\u2018oh no\\u2019\\u2026it just means moving through them quicker.
Perfectionism is often a tool for hiding out.
Don\\u2019t deny yourself the fact that it might not feel good.\\xa0 It\\u2019s ok\\u2026.that you\\u2019re getting some data in\\u2026the you got knocked off the horse.
Biologically we can only perceive so much data.\\xa0 We\\u2019re gonna leave stuff out and we\\u2019re affected by it.
Start identifying with something greater and a commitment instead of perfection.
What does real win-win look like?
I think the challenge of who we identify as ourselves is one of the biggest problems\\u2026.most of us built our identity to the most part, under 10 years old.
Be anything but yourself, you\\u2019ll be an upgrade.
This thing that we think is our identity is build before we are mature enough to know what it is and it\\u2019s running us like a program.
What am I identifying with?
What is sustainable over time is what we are going to be committed to identifying with.
I was blessed with the challenge in life that in 4th grade, there was something wrong\\u2026at the time, the only tutor that the school had was the one working with the special needs kids\\u2026I was moved out of my class to work with that woman and I made a very big decision there was something critically wrong with me\\u2026that was a pivotal decision in how I identified with myself\\u2026I believed I was intrinsically broken and there was no way out. \\xa0
I finally had to identify with something other than the concept in my head of \\u2018I\\u2019m too stupid to be alive.\\u2019
Unless I build something else to identify out of, there was no way out.
\\u2018Who are you going to identify as you?\\u2019 Moving forward can give you a level of consistency over time.\\xa0 And that\\u2019s how you can get some room from that conversation in your head.
Denying our children wounds, denies the potential of their growth.
Some of the most amazing people I\\u2019ve met in my life, when you learn about their childhood, you want to just say \\u2018how did you survive it?\\u2019
Perfectionism is a manifestation of probably a decision made by a 7 or 9 year old, you\\u2019re still living out that\\u2019s running you like a routine out of control.
Coaching is NOT therapy.
It\\u2019s like trying to catch something in the shadows and asking \\u2018where is this coming from?\\u2019
If you come from a perspective of compassionate observer\\u2026what if I made up that i\\u2019m smart enough?\\u2026What if I picked a commitment to live out of \\u2018even if I failed at it, that would be a noble life for me?\\u2019
Be a catalyst for others\\u2026on their death bed they\\u2019d be moved to tears by their own life.
I\\u2019m going to give up judging.\\xa0 In the end, I\\u2019ll look back and I\\u2019ll either succeed or fail.\\xa0 And if I failed, how would I feel?\\xa0 Well, you made the effort\\u2026
The beginning is to be suspicious of your own kind of shadow\\u2026
We\\u2019re over obsessed with this concept of \\u2018be yourself\\u2019\\u2026.what the heck is that?
Why don\\u2019t you pick as an adult what you want your life to be committed to and then in grounded ways, start collecting evidence on it?
The Beautiful Mind\\u2026in the end the hallucinations weren\\u2019t running his life, but they didn\\u2019t leave.\\xa0 That\\u2019s the gold.\\xa0 I\\u2019m not listening to you anymore\\u2026.It\\u2019s not about eliminating\\u2026it\\u2019s like having a great opponent\\u2026and knowing their not going away\\u2026you will become a better player.
It\\u2019s starting to accept what\\u2019s there and then\\u2026what can I do with this?
The most efficient thing is \\u2018how can I use it as a resource?\\u2019
I used comedy as a survival technique\\u2026I don\\u2019t want to lose that.\\xa0 I just want to be in charge of when I bring it out.
I was given the Governor\\u2019s award for taking humor to cancer patients.
What do you want to leave this world?\\xa0 What do you want your life to be about?\\u2026Start there.
Paraphrasing\\u2026We are never really alive until we embrace our own mortality.
There\\u2019s a stone with my name on it\\u2026.I need to take a moment and be present that this is where it ends\\u2026.what am I gonna do until I get here?
What can I do today that\\u2019s within my means that can move towards that?
We make a great deal of our decisions out of fear.
When we\\u2019re in the moment, there\\u2019s a lot less fear than when we\\u2019re in the possible future.
What if I treat these learning challenges as a sleep state? What would it take to wake up?
A commitment to the future, grounds me in the present.
Other people have a great deal of influence\\u2026.what you can do is maneuver yourself around to minimize the influence.
There have been times when I\\u2019ve seen people change a core belief and then other people changed.
Don\\u2019t underestimate that we\\u2019re co-connected.
This isn\\u2019t always a smooth path.
Can I transform it?\\xa0 Can I change it?\\xa0 or Can I choose it?
You have to make some evaluations.
The more they change, the more their souls seem to die.\\xa0 Which aligns\\u2026with not accepting who you are and what you have\\u2026
Choose what you have.
What would be a life that we\\u2019ve be proud we lived?
There are days that won\\u2019t be comfortable, but they can be more meaningful.
Take a little time to evaluate your life.
I\\u2019m going to live my life as if I\\u2019m making a difference and I\\u2019m not going to keep score til the end.
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