The volunteer victim: learning to deal with people who decide to move on from you

Published: April 23, 2021, 2 p.m.

There\u2019s no denying losing a relationship stings. When it\u2019s one that you put your heart and effort into professionally and personally, it hurts even more. Sometimes the grass isn\u2019t always greener on the other side, but as a coach or a leader, you must be willing to let people make the decisions they feel are best for them, even if it is to leave you. On this week\u2019s episode, I discuss what it means to have loyalty tested and ultimately severed. I truly believe that as a leader, the only way to approach your work is to give your absolute best with love in your heart. But there have been times where, ultimately, someone has decided to move on from me, and that\u2019s okay.

You\u2019ll hear my thoughts on how to deal with the sting of feeling betrayed, why there\u2019s no point in holding grudges, what the one thing I see when I\u2019m evaluating an athlete, and how you can prepare yourself to accept the blow of having loyalty tested. It\u2019s not a fun or glamorous part of being a coach or leader, but it is an inevitable one. In the long run, everyone goes through this kind of conversation from one side or the other. This week\u2019s show will get you ready for when that conversation happens for you and why the gut punch feeling may never go away but can make you a better leader.