003: take on the workplace bully

Published: Nov. 24, 2015, 11 a.m.

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Ep. 03: taking on the workplace bully \\u2014 whether you\\u2019re tolerating bullying behavior or you\\u2019re the target of the bully\\u2019s actions, you\\u2019ll discover how to eliminate this behavior. See it as an energetic exchange, not a battle of the wills. And energy goes and flows when you use it with intention.

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Work with a bully or tolerate bullying behavior?

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When you\\xa0get to the heart\\xa0of the problem, bullies get\\xa0to\\xa0come in, take all the energy in a situation and use it for their own personal gain. They\\u2019re selfish, manipulative and they breed fear. And allowing this behavior erodes team culture, trust and focus.

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You can positively impact this lopsided energetic exchange with or without direct confrontation. Speak up and say you no longer\\xa0tolerate this behavior - say it\'s selfish and bring it back to the greater good. Speak up and ask what the bully really wants - focus on the facts and how to move the team forward, not the emotion. You can also shift the energy away from the bully back to the team\'s goals (or the project, the company\'s focus) by simply using your intention and your breath. Be aware that you have these Jedi-like skills and use them. There\'s a\\xa0subtle energy field in the situation, and the bully is manipulating it. Take it back and focus on what\'s best for everyone. The greatest good always wins. This is a skill that must be experienced, not debated. Try it.

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  • Bullying is about fear, how long are you going to tolerate an environment of fear?
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  • See it as an energy exchange, and one person getting to suck up all the energy in the room for their own use.
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  • Decide that it\\u2019s no longer acceptable.
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  • Use your energy. Be strong. Set your intention, send energy to rebalance, say something, insert your energy into the situation and hold space for others to do the same.
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  • Remove emotion and the charge, be neutral and always take it back to what\\u2019s for the greatest good \\u2026 productivity, getting things done, results, team work.
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  • Have compassion. Compassion is a strength that the bully does not have.
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