Just how important is community and connection to others? How much difference does access to a community or finding the \u2018right\u2019 people make?
\nCan the value be over-hyped? Are people concretely Introverted or Extroverted, or is there more to it? Why do some of us feel just as comfortable around people as we do alone for long periods of time?
\nWe explore these questions in episode 281 of the With Joe Wehbe Podcast\u2026 having previously built a formal community and tapped into different kinds of communities, we cross-reference personal experience and observation with a lot of conventional wisdom and science to unpack this.
\nWe also explore nuance like expectations, relief-seeking, healthy reliance on and relationships with others, and where we project personal challenges onto the need for community. Within the episode show notes / Youtube description there are also links to other podcast episodes and blog pieces I\u2019ve written in the past with my views on this same topic, and some of the science or theories that formed old views about the importance and role of connection to others.
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\nSUMMARY:
0:00 Introduction
\n1:53 Luke\u2019s experience with community, running community and the workplace.
\n7:00 Joe\u2019s experience with community, feelings of isolation & building a community
\n11:48 \u2018I\u2019ve never met a peaceful person who didn\u2019t seem comfortable in their own skin.\u2019
\n14:28 Exploring Introversion vs. Extraversion, and an alternative theory based on experiences.
\n18:20 Does Every Group Have Its Own Personality?
\n21:45 The Role of Expectation and Projection
\n26:10 Exploring The Energy We Get From Others
\n28:30 Not Mistaking In Others What Is In You & Identifying With Groups
\n33:00 How People Might Become Fooled Into Thinking Others Are The Solution.
\n39:20 What Issues do we \u2018create\u2019 for ourselves? Jumping over walls of self-built anxiety.