Don't argue with the Irrational Other

Published: Dec. 23, 2020, 8 a.m.

\u201cWith lovingkindness for myself I allow all the feelings of the irrational, perplexing, agonizing relationship to wash over me. Suddenly, I see it clearly: my whining, my sense that I\u2019m trapped by this relationship, my seeming powerlessness over the irrationality of the Other are reenactments. And with that observation I\u2019m suddenly free from the burden, the trap of trying to make the irrational rational. Not only is it completely irrational to argue with the Irrational Other, it\u2019s irrational to try to alter them so that they make sense to me.\u201d

We all have an \u201cIrrationational Other\u201d in our lives. We have a choice to make when it comes to how we experience that person. We can remain stuck and let that person continue to provoke us or keep us locked up, or with love and self-understanding, we can wake up to the repetition, we can move past the pain or fear or shame and take a step on the path to awakening.

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