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b'In This Episode:\\n\\n\\n\\n* What happened with coach Shirin Eskandani got the call for her dream job\\u2013singing in Carmen at the Met* How she discovered coaching and the process that would help her reexamine how she feels and what she wants* The role coaching plays in her life now that she is a coach herself* How she works to support her own clients in a coaching relationship today\\n\\n\\n\\nI was not a girl scout. But I love merit badges.\\n\\n\\n\\nAs in, few things thrill me more than earning recognition for learning or doing something.\\n\\n\\n\\nI\\u2019ve been chasing merit badges all my life\\u2014so much so that the pursuit of merit badges has often led me away from what I really want out of life\\u2026 and toward what will earn me the next badge.\\n\\n\\n\\nI\\u2019ve taken numerous jobs I didn\\u2019t want just to get the merit badge. I\\u2019ve agreed to plenty of collaborations I didn\\u2019t really want just to get the merit badge. And, I\\u2019ve chased a bunch of goals that didn\\u2019t really inspire me just to get the merit badge.\\n\\n\\n\\nEvery merit badge I earn is just another attempt to prove to myself that I\\u2019m good enough, that I\\u2019m worthy. And each merit badge I earn only convinces me that the next merit badge will be the one that finally makes me happy.\\n\\n\\n\\nIt\\u2019s only been in the last couple of years that I made this realization. And I did so with the support of my husband, my team, and coaching.\\n\\n\\n\\nNow that I know about my merit badge pattern, I\\u2019m always on the lookout for it. \\n\\n\\n\\nI\\u2019ve rearranged my goal-setting, planning, and decision-making so that I have a better opportunity to notice when I\\u2019m stretching toward something I really want\\u2026 or gunning for another merit badge.\\n\\n\\n\\nI know I\\u2019m not the only person who always has her eye on the next merit badge. There\\u2019s a good chance that, as a listener of this show, you\\u2019re also keen on collecting accomplishments and achievements. Maybe that\\u2019s been helpful for you\\u2026 and maybe it\\u2019s gotten you off track.\\n\\n\\n\\nMaybe it\\u2019s been a result of your own sense of self-worth\\u2026 and maybe it\\u2019s been an attempt to prove it.\\n\\n\\n\\nMy guest today found herself in a similar situation to me\\u2014always trying to prove she was good enough by climbing the rungs of her chosen career ladder: opera singing.\\n\\n\\n\\nBut when she earned the merit badge she had most wanted her whole life, she realized that she still wasn\\u2019t happy.\\n\\n\\n\\nI\\u2019ll let her tell that story\\u2014but, listener, I can relate. And that\\u2019s why I so wanted to bring Shirin Eskandani onto the show.\\n\\n\\n\\nShirin has done a lot of work on rewriting this pattern and she\\u2019s found support for that work through coaching.\\n\\n\\n\\nToday, Shirin is not a full-time opera singer. She\\u2019s a full-time coach herself.\\n\\n\\n\\nShirin is a life coach, public speaker and writer who specializes in mindfulness and mindset work. She has been a featured wellness expert on the Today Show and Cosmopolitan Magazine. Shirin\\u2019s holistic approach to transformation is influenced by her background in meditation, spirituality and the arts.\\n\\n\\n\\nWe talk about achieving her childhood dream and realizing she still wasn\\u2019t happy, as well as how she started to choose the thoughts that would help her feel the way she wants to feel, made the leap to coaching, and found her why. We also talk about coaching as a support structure and how coaching can ...'