Yelling Less
b'When it comes to mom-yelling we hold these truths to be self-evident: never yelling is not possible; less yelling is desirable.\\n\\xa0Let\\u2019s be real: there are times when every parent\\u2019s got to yell. Here\\u2019s how Lisa Belkin put it in The New York Times:\\n\\nWhen all else fails, a few claps of oral thunder certainly show that Mom or Dad has had it, that humans can be pushed just so far, and this is what it looks like when you\\u2019ve pushed them too much.\\n\\nBut although we might agree that a little bit of hollering has its place, we\\u2019d both like to do less yelling in our homes, due to two other unavoidable parenting truths:\\n\\u2022 The more you yell, the more you have to yell.\\n\\u2022 The more you yell, the more your kids will yell.\\nIn this episode, we discuss what we yell about, and then what to do about it. There\\u2019s usually an easier solution to what you\\u2019re yelling about than yelling, or at least a quieter one. Parenting expert Carolyn Dalgiesh, author of The Sensory Child Gets Organized, calls it a \\u201cworkaround for the source of tension.\\u201d\\xa0In Amy\\u2019s house, for example, an extra set of toothbrushes in the downstairs bathroom cut the morning yelling by half.\\nAnd sometimes we have to face the fact that parenting without yelling takes a little more effort than parenting with. As Margaret\\u2019s sister-in-law likes to say,\\n\\nReally saying \\u2018no\\u2019 means getting off the couch.\\n\\nHere\\u2019s some links to other takes on the topic we discuss in this episode:\\n\\nAmy Wilson for Redbook: Could You Go a Week Without Yelling at Your Kids? (spoiler alert: I could not)\\nHilary Stout for The New York Times: For Some Parents, Shouting is the New Spanking\\n\\nSue Shellenbarger for the Wall Street Journal: Talking to Your Kids After You Yell\\n\\xa0\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'