When Your Kids Take Everything Out On You
b'Most parenting experts say being our kids\\u2019 safe space includes letting some amount of their snarkiness roll off our backs. It\\u2019s normal. Don\\u2019t take it personally. \\nAnd knowing that it\\u2019s universal helps. Sometimes. A little. \\nBut we still struggle. Shouldn\\u2019t we insist on respect from our kids? And what happens when the eye-rolling and "God, Mom, don\'t you know anything?" really starts to wear us down? \\nIn this episode we discuss why kids take things out on us as parents (spoiler alert: it gets worse before it gets better) and how we can lower our reactivity in order to respond more effectively.\\nHere\\u2019s links to research and other writing on the topic that we discuss:\\nChrista Santangelo, PhD: A New Theory of Teenagers (book)\\nAlice G. Walton for The Atlantic: 12 Ways to Mess Up Your Kids\\nSara Bean for Empowering Parents: \\u201cI Hate You, Mom! I Wish You Were Dead!\\u201d \\u2014 When Kids Say Hurtful Things\\nKim Abraham for Empowering Parents: Anger, Rage and Explosive Outbursts: How to Respond to Your Child or Teen\\u2019s Anger\\nJanet Lehman for Empowering Parents: Do Your Kids Respect You? 9 Ways to Change Their Attitude\\nStephanie Klindt: 10 Ways To Set Appropriate Boundaries With Teens\\nDr. Wendy Mogel: Mothers, don\'t take teen rejection personally\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'