When To Let Kids Quit
b'Out of all the things we stress about as parents, whether to let our seven-year-olds quit the violin seems like it shouldn\\u2019t matter that much. If they wouldn\\u2019t have made first chair in the Vienna Symphony anyhow, what difference does it make?\\n\\xa0But letting our kids quit\\u2014 or making them tough it out\\u2014 gets at the very crux of parenting: pushing our kids enough, but not too much. Directing their young lives, but letting them find their own paths.\\n\\xa0In this episode we discuss:\\n\\xa0\\n\\xa0the crucial difference between quitting and \\u201cnon-re-upping\\u201d\\n\\xa0the importance of \\u201cdabble-level\\u201d activities for little kids\\n\\xa0finding the \\u201cless-intense alternative\\u201d for older kids\\n\\xa0the times that it\\u2019s okay to let kids quit\\n\\xa0the times that you need to push them through. As Dr. Angela Duckworth, the esteemed \\u201cgrit\\u201d researcher, put it: \\u201cDon\\u2019t let them quit on a hard day.\\u201d\\n\\xa0\\n\\xa0Here\\u2019s links to some further reading (and some viewing) on the topic, most of which we discuss in this episode:\\n\\xa0Nina Sovich for WSJ: When To Let Children Quit \\nDelia Lloyd for Brain, Child: Should You Let Your Child Quit?\\nAmy Wilson (!) for New York Family: Finding the Optimal Push\\nKJ Dell\\u2019Antonia for NYT Well Family: Raising a Child with Grit Can Mean Letting Her Quit\\nMelaina Juntti for Men\\u2019s Journal: Six Signs Your Kid Should Quit a Sport\\nAngela Duckworth: Grit: Perseverance and Passion for Long-Term Goals \\nHBO\\u2019s documentary State of Play: Trophy Kids\\nThis episode is sponsored by Blinkist. Read all those non-fiction books you\\u2019ve been meaning to get to in 15-minute \\u201cBlinks\\u201d on your laptop or phone. You can read, listen\\u2013 or both! What Fresh Hell listeners can try Blinkist for free at bit.ly/WFHblinkist.\\nKeep leaving us those ratings and reviews on iTunes\\u2014 you\\u2019re helping our audience grow. Thanks!\\xa0\\n\\xa0\\n\\xa0\\n\\xa0\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'