When One of Our Kids Is Taking All Our Bandwidth
b"There are a lot of reasons that one of our kids might end up getting most of our attention. Some are positive: Sophia is the best 12-year-old pitcher in the state!\\xa0 Some are decidedly negative: another hospital stay. Some bandwidth-hogging choices are freely made; some are obligations.\\xa0 Sometimes focusing on just one of our kids is temporary, and sometimes it's the sort of \\u201cnew normal\\u201d that can radically reshape family dynamics.\\xa0 \\nIn this episode, we talk about the times in our own parenting lives when one of our kids has taken up all (okay, 99%) of our bandwidth, and how to manage our other relationships- including with our partners- during the tough or crazy times.\\xa0 \\nIn our experience, identifying and being honest about what\\u2019s taking up the bandwidth is the key to making sure everyone survives it. \\nHere are links to the research on this topic that we discuss in this episode:\\xa0 \\nLeigh Anderson for Lifehacker: What to Do If Your Child's Behavior Is Ruining Your Relationship With Your Partner\\nCarson Crusaders Foundation \\nAntoinette Deavin, Pete Greasley, Clare Dixon for Pediatrics: Children\\u2019s Perspectives on Living With a Sibling With a Chronic Illness\\nDean E. Murphy for NYT: Watching Them Watching Me\\nLisa Rapaport for Reuters: Healthy kids with sick sibling may hide emotions\\nNicole Schwarz for imperfectfamilies.com: When The Siblings of a Difficult Child Feel Ignored\\nAndrew Sullivan for NYT: How Do You Raise a Prodigy?\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"