When Kids Talk Back
b'How are we supposed to respond when our kids talk back? Some experts say it\\u2019s normal child behavior, and as such, we should take a deep breath and ignore it. We say no way. But yelling \\u201cHow dare you talk to me like that in my house?\\u201d isn\\u2019t getting us anywhere, either. So what\\u2019s the best response?\\n\\xa0In this episode we discuss\\n\\xa0\\n\\xa0how our kids\\u2019 talking back can really be about underlying anxiety\\n\\xa0how talking back is also about who\\u2019s in control\\n\\xa0how our response is the key to setting ongoing expectations\\n\\xa0why it\\u2019s harder for us to handle talking back when it happens in public\\n\\xa0why Margaret thinks it\\u2019s okay if our kids think we\\u2019re a little bit like Darth Vader\\n\\xa0why Amy says a little Yoda thrown in there might not be the worst idea\\n\\xa0\\n\\xa0We like Dr. Laura Markham\\u2019s suggestion for a better thing to say when kids talk back:\\n\\nYou can tell me what you\\u2019re upset about without attacking me. What\\u2019s going on?\\n\\nEven for grownups, there\\u2019s a difference between standing up for yourself and being rude. We want our kids to have the ability to do the former without the latter. Which means we have to show them how to do it.\\nHere\\u2019s links to other articles and research discussed in this episode:\\nDr. Laura Markham for Psychology Today: What To Do When Your Kid Talks Back\\nTamekia Reece for Parents: What To Do When Kids Talk Back\\nDr. Michele Borba for Parents: Helping Kids Handle Anger\\nThe Military Wife and Mom: How to Handle Back Talk and Disrespect Like a Parenting Warrior\\nJoseph P. Allen et al, University of Virginia: Predictors of Susceptibility to Peer Influence Regarding Substance Use in Adolescence\\n\\u2026and Margaret recommended the book What Children Learn From Their Parents\\u2019 Marriages\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'