The Whining is Killing Us
b'Whining is what experts call a \\u201clow-power strategy of dominance.\\u201d Kids do it because it\\u2019s what\\u2019s available to them. Since it drives parents bonkers, it\\u2019s remarkably effective. And it turns out whining really is as annoying as we think it is. A recent study tested whether adults (non-parents and parents both) were more distracted by whining than other sounds. The result? Everyone in the study, whether they had kids or not, found the sound of a whining toddler twice as distracting as the sound of a table saw screeching at full volume.\\nAs effective as this "auditory sensitivity" is, no wonder most humans between the ages of two and four learn to take full advantage. Still, there are things we can do to make the whining bother us less, which will make it less effective, which will make our kids do it less, and look who\'s got a strategy of dominance now?\\nIn this episode, we discuss the best ways to deal with whiners, and how to perhaps greet it with a bit more generosity. We might as well; we\'re probably stuck with it. As parenting specialist Bonnie Harris puts it:\\n"Whining is as developmental and normal in a\\xa0toddler\\u2019s life\\xa0as discovering the pleasure of saying \\u201cno." Don\\u2019t think about teaching your child not to do it. Do think about ways you can help yourself\\xa0deal with it calmly\\xa0and perhaps shorten its duration."\\nHere are links to research on whining that we discuss in this episode: \\n\\nBonnie Harris for Christian Science Monitor: Five parenting tips to put a stop to your child\'s whining\\n\\n\\nDr. Guy Winch for Psychology Today: A Simple Trick to Get Your Kid to Stop Whining\\n\\n\\nErin Leyba for Motherly: It\\u2019s science: Kids whine for a (very good) reason\\n\\n\\nJonathan Allen for Reuters: Study: Child\'s whining one of life\'s most distracting sounds\\n\\n\\n\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'