Should Dads Get Graded on a Curve?
b'A dad in Bermuda recently joined his young daughter on stage at her ballet recital when she was too frightened to perform. He was carrying another one of their children at the time. Video of that moment went viral, the dad got his own hashtag, and the world stopped to honor his awesomeness.\\nHere\\u2019s our question: would a mother doing the same thing have gotten any attention at all?\\nThere\\u2019s no question that dads get graded on a curve in our society. Times are changing\\u2014 fathers are now the primary caregiver for about one out of every four preschool-age children, according to the U.S. Census Bureau\\u2014 but stereotypes die hard. And while we as mothers may grade our husbands\\u2019 household contributions against our own, the larger world grades them against the Don Draper-style fathers of yore\\u2014 which means that any guy wearing a Baby Bjorn gets a ticker tape parade.\\nIn this episode we give that notion several eye rolls. Kevin Madsen of the Hey Dad podcast is our guest, and he says dads don\\u2019t necessarily love the curved grading either. While the extra credit is kind of nice sometimes, Kevin says he\\u2019s tired of being sold short by people assuming he can\\u2019t possibly know how to take care of his own children as well as his wife can.\\nSo let\\u2019s stop grading the dads in our lives on a curve. Hell, let\\u2019s stop grading them at all. And here\\u2019s a tip for dads: stop telling your wives you do more than your own dads did. We know. And it\\u2019s a start.\\nHere\\u2019s links to some research discussed in this episode:\\nPaul Scott for Parents: The Responsibilities and Expectations of the New American Dad\\nEugene Volokh for the Washington Post: In Praise of Grading on a Curve\\nand this viral post by Facebook employee Tom Stocky , on the \\u201cridiculous praise\\u201d he got for changing a diaper or buying groceries with his daughter while on parental leave.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'