Rule Breaker Or Rule Follower: Which Are You?
b'Are you a rule breaker or a rule follower? Are you married to your opposite? We\'re both rule followers, and when one builds a life with someone who sees the "NO DOGS IN THE LAKE" sign as an invitation to let the golden retriever go for a swim, one is caught between two bad choices: swallow the horrible anxiety that others might think *you* are the sort of person who has zero consideration for clearly posted signage, or be the stick in the mud who can never loosen up a little.\\nIn this episode we discuss why both kinds of people exist, and bump up against each other\\u2013 and\\n\\nwhy the "no rules pool" isn\'t as fun as it sounds\\n\\nhow rules limit possibilities, good and bad\\n\\nwhy humans tend to create more rules during and after times of struggle\\n\\nwhether kids are born to be rule followers\\n\\n\\nIt\'s worth the struggle to find the balance for our families. In order for our kids to have the secret thrill of breaking a rule, there need to be a few rules there in the first place.\\nHere are links to some of the writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: \\nMichele Gelfand: Rule Makers, Rule Breakers: How Tight and Loose Cultures Wire Our World\\njthreenme: Raising a Rule Follower When You\'re Married To a Rule Breaker\\nDiane Spear: Play By the Relationship Rules! \\nMichele Gelfand for The Guardian: Why countries with \'loose\', rule-breaking cultures have been hit harder by Covid\\nWikipedia: Rumspringa\\nSpecial thanks to this month\'s sponsors:\\nBetterhelp\\xa0Start taking charge of your mental health\\u2013 no matter where you live!\\xa0Go to\\xa0betterhelp.com/fresh\\xa0to get 10% off your first month of counseling.\\nMembrasin\\xa0is the totally natural, estrogen-free, clinically proven feminine dryness formula. Go to\\xa0membrasinlife.com\\xa0to find out more- and use the code FRESH to get 10% off.\\nProse\\xa0is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it!\\xa0Get 15% off your first order today! Go to\\xa0prose.com/laughing.\\xa0\\nKiwiCo\\xa0projects make science, technology, engineering, art, and math super fun\\u2013\\xa0and best of all, kids of all ages can work on them independently! Get your first month FREE on select crates at\\xa0kiwico.com/motherhood.\\nGreen Chef\\u2019s expert chefs design flavorful recipes that go way beyond the ordinary. Go to greenchef.com/laughing100 and use code laughing100 to get $100\\xa0off including free shipping!\\nHappy Dance skin care products are made with premium ingredients, including the highest quality CBD. Get 15% off your first Happy Dance order by going to\\xa0doahappydance.com/laughing.\\xa0\\nHelix customized mattresses will give you the best sleep of your life! Get up to $200 off all mattress orders, plus two free pillows, at helixSleep.com/laughing.\\nDesign like a pro with Canva Pro! We use it for all our images\\u2013 we\'ve upped our game and saved time too. Right now,\\xa0\\xa0you can get a FREE 45-day extended trial when you go\\xa0to canva.me/fresh.\\nThe\\xa0Cozi\\xa0Family Organizer is for anyone juggling camp schedules, practices, meetings, doctor\\u2019s appointments, and maybe a date night once in a while. Download\\xa0Cozi\\xa0for free from the app store!\\nMagic Spoon cereal gets protein into your kids\\u2019 breakfast- and with 0 grams of sugar. Go to magicspoon.com/FRESH and use the code FRESH at checkout to get $5 off!\\nJane.com\\xa0is a boutique marketplace featuring the latest in women\\u2019s fashion, accessories, home decor, children\\u2019s clothing, and more. You will not believe the prices!\\xa0Visit\\xa0jane.com/laughing.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'