How To Be a Happier Parent (with KJ DellAntonia)
b'Is a mother only as happy as her unhappiest child? In our experience, yeah, pretty much. And studies (referenced below) back that up\\u2013 although they also suggest many parents also derive their greatest happiness from their child-raising.\\n\\xa0So how do we separate out our own sense of well-being from our children\\u2019s struggles? And in a more everyday sense, how do we find happiness in the daily slog?\\n\\xa0We talk it out with guest KJ Dell\\u2019Antonia, former lead editor of The New York Times\\u2019 Motherlode blog and author of the brand-new book How to be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life, and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. KJ says the key is finding simple, concrete solutions for what isn\\u2019t working\\u2013 and letting go of some of the rest.\\nAs KJ puts it:\\n\\nWhen we\\u2019re not putting all our energy into getting our kids to eat and study and do everything exactly the way we want them to, we can put it into a much more positive place.\\n\\nNobody\\u2019s saying that you have to live in denial of your kids\\u2019 reality. But we think disengaging from our children\\u2019s struggles just enough so that our happiness isn\\u2019t directly pegged to theirs is the key to happier, more effective parenting.\\nHere\\u2019s links to other research and resources discussed in this episode:\\nJordan Schrader for Alcalde: Parents\\u2019 Happiness Linked to Their Least Happy Child\\u2019s \\nClaire E. Ashton-James, Kostadin Kushlev, Elizabeth W. Dunn: Parents Reap What They Sow: Child-Centrism and Parental Well-Being\\nJulie Beck for The Atlantic: Study: Parents Only as Happy as Their Unhappiest Child\\n\\u201cWelcome to Holland,\\u201d by Emily Perl Kingsley\\nand Shakespearean voice teacher Patsy Rodenburg\\u2019s book The Second Circle, which Amy says has influenced her more than any book she\\u2019s ever read. Read its excerpts on parenting here.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'