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b'Saying no is a lot harder for women. We\\u2019re conditioned to be compliant; studies show that by middle school, girls shy away from expressing authentic preferences in order to fit in.\\xa0And when we do say no, the world holds that against us more than it would a man.\\nPerhaps that explains how we might find ourselves running the grade school bake sale *again,* and being resentful, when we could just have said no in the first place.\\nIn this episode we discuss\\n\\nthe difference between a hard no and a soft no\\n\\nwhere to practice your no\\n\\nhow to decide once what\'s a no\\n\\nwhy you should say you \\u201cdon\\u2019t\\u201d want to do something, instead of that you \\u201ccan\\u2019t\\u201d\\n\\n\\nIn order to let go of our people-pleasing tendencies, the best place to start might be by looking within. Are we really the only one who can keep her finger in the dam in this particular situation?\\nIf not, saying \'no\' might be worth the discomfort; it makes more room in our lives for the things we want to be there.\\nHere are links to the studies and other writing on this topic that we discuss in this episode: \\nJackie Ashton for Washington Post On Parenting: The art of saying no: How to raise kids to be polite, not pushovers\\nJessica Bennett for NYT: Welcome to the \'No\' Club\\nBren\\xe9 Brown for oprah.com: 3 Ways To Set Boundaries\\nMeghan Keane for NPR\'s Life Kit: How To Say No, For The People Pleaser Who Always Says Yes\\nSarah Mendekick for LA Times Op-Ed:\\xa0Men can\\u2019t hear it, women don\\u2019t say it \\u2014 the everyday importance of \\u2018no\\u2019\\nKatharine Ridgway O\'Brien: "Just Saying "No": An Examination of Gender Differences in the Ability to Decline Requests in the Workplace."\\nSamantha Radocchia for women2.com: LEARNING THE ART OF SAYING \\u2018NO\\u2019\\nKristin Wong for NYT: Why You Should Learn to Say \\u2018No\\u2019 More Often\\n...and finally, the legendary E.B. White, who never had any problem saying no, reading Charlotte\'s Web\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'