Dividing the Workload
b'In any home, there\\u2019s the workload everyone can see: the dirty dishes, the broken crayons under the dining room table, the laundry to be folded. And in most of our homes, that workload is divided more equitably than it was in the homes where we grew up.\\n\\xa0But then there\\u2019s the workload that lives in a parent\\u2019s head, the running list of things we hope we won\\u2019t forget: the permission slips and prescriptions. The birthday presents and batteries.\\n\\xa0And there\\u2019s still usually just one parent who\\u2019s in charge of THAT.\\n\\xa0And if you\\u2019re reading this right now? We\\u2019re going to guess it\\u2019s you.\\n\\xa0In your household you\\u2019re the one that blogger Mblazoned calls \\u201cThe Default Parent,\\u201d\\xa0and while we hasten to append\\xa0#notallmen to what we\\u2019re about to say\\u2026\\nstudies indicate that whether the mother works outside the home or not, all this \\u201cstuff\\u201d usually remains firmly in the mom\\u2019s pile.\\nAnd it\\u2019s a big pile.\\nWe have a choice: to either change that dynamic, or leave it the way it is but stop feeling resentful about it.\\nMargaret and me? We\\u2019re starting with the moms in the mirror. Make that change.\\nIn this episode we discuss:\\n\\u2022how to make the \\u201cinvisible workload\\u201d more visible\\n\\u2022the power of the Sunday evening calendar meeting\\n\\u2022why we\\u2019re going to start saying \\u201cthank you\\u201d more often\\n\\u2022why letting go of the \\u201cwhy am I always the one who does everything\\u201d monologue is harder than we care to admit\\n\\xa0\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'