DEEP DIVE: Meeting Our Kids Where They Are
b'We\\u2019re doing a Deep Dive into our best episodes around a single topic. Find the Spotify playlist for this \\u201cDeep Dive\\u201d here.\\nThis group of episodes is about parenting kids who don\\u2019t fit the mold. This week, we\\u2019re revisiting our episode on meeting our kids where they are.\\nIt\'s hard not to be a little nervous when your kid is the only one still crying at preschool drop-off. Or the only one still spelling everything wrong in third grade. Sometimes it turns out to be a late bloomer situation, nothing to worry about. Sometimes it\'s an early indicator of something your kid might struggle with for a long time.\\nHow do we move beyond our own stress about what our kids are and aren\'t doing like the rest of the bunch? How do we adjust our demands to meet what our kids are actually capable of? How do we set our parental expectations so that our kids will be motivated to try harder without feeling bad about themselves?\\nIt\'s a tricky balance, best summed up by parent coach\\xa0Sarah Wayland:\\n"If we never had expectations that were beyond our children\\u2019s current abilities, we wouldn\\u2019t teach them anything.... But I\\u2019m at my absolute worst as a parent when my expectations are far beyond\\xa0my kids\\u2019\\xa0abilities."\\nHere are links to research and other writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:\\n\\nJoanna Faber:\\xa0Manage Your Expectations, Not Your Child\\n\\n\\nTerri Mauro for Very Well Family:\\xa0Backward Chaining for Special-Needs Children\\n\\n\\nDr. Sarah C. Wayland for Guiding Exceptional Parents:\\xa0Meet Your Kids Where They Are\\n\\n\\nElaine Taylor-Klaus for Impact ADHD:\\xa0Shift Your Expectations to Manage Complex Kids\\n\\n\\n\\nListen to "When Typical Parenting Advice Just Doesn\'t Fit"\\n\\nWe love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website:\\nhttps://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'