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b"We\\u2019ve all been in moments when we have to make a Big Ask. As in: it\\u2019s 2 a.m. The baby is throwing up and spiking a high fever. Your partner is out of town. Your other kid is asleep upstairs. Who are you going to call in the middle of the night? Making that ask is never easy.\\nBut why? Why is it so hard to ask for big help, especially when we\\u2019re usually grateful to be able to assist a friend in need? Anyone who\\u2019s been a parent long enough has been on both the giving and receiving side of that Big Help ask. And when we\\u2019re on the receiving end of that kind of request, from a friend we know is struggling, we\\u2019re usually really happy\\u2013 even grateful\\u2013 to be able to help.\\xa0\\nSo how can we become \\u201caskable friends\\u201d and better helpers?\\nAnd how can we prepare for the big help times in our own lives before they arrive?\\xa0\\nIn this episode, we discuss\\n\\nthe reasons why asking for help can be so hard, especially for mothers\\n\\nwhen asking for big help is \\u201cjustified\\u201d (and making asking for small help okay)\\n\\nacute needs vs. chronic needs\\n\\nhow to really help a struggling friend, rather than saying \\u201clet me know if you need anything\\u201d\\n\\nsome useful ways to help a friend grieving a loss\\n\\nand how we can make that short list of friends, and offer to BE on that short list of friends, before the time comes.\\n\\n\\nIn the end, asking for big help is about showing up for ourselves. Here\\u2019s how our listener Jennifer put it:\\xa0\\n\\u201cI can ask for help, even if I can technically handle it, but I just want, or need a break. I don't need to drive myself to the edge of the cliff before I ask.\\u201d\\nHere are links to some of the writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:\\xa0\\nMayday: Asking For Help In Times Of Need, by Nora Bouchard\\nlotsahelpinghands.com (@lotsahelpinghands on Twitter)\\nEnjoli fragrance commercial \\nSpecial thanks to this month's sponsors:\\xa0\\xa0\\nJane.com\\xa0is a boutique marketplace featuring the latest in women\\u2019s fashion, accessories, home decor, children\\u2019s clothing, and more. You will not believe the prices!\\xa0Visit\\xa0jane.com/laughing.\\nZocdoc has you covered! Whether you need a primary care physician, dentist, dermatologist, psychiatrist, eye doctor, or any other specialist, you can find top doctors at zocdoc.com.laughing.\\nAudible has everything you love to listen to, INCLUDING\\xa0this podcast, all in one app! Try Audible free for 30 days by going to audible.com/fresh, or by texting FRESH to 500-500.\\nPharmaca\\xa0is a source you can trust for herbal and homeopathic formulas, high-quality vitamins, and organic cruelty-free beauty. Go to\\xa0Pharmaca.com/laughing\\xa0right now to save 20% off your first order!\\nWorkplace Comedy Podcast\\xa0is a hilarious new improv podcast set in a fictional water bottling company, hosted by Emmy Laybourne and Tracy Vilar and a lineup of amazing comedy guests. Subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts!\\nBetterhelp\\xa0allows you to connect with a counselor over text, phone, or video \\u2014 and everything you say is confidential. Start living a happier life today! Get 10% off your first month by visiting\\xa0betterhelp.com/fresh.\\nKiwiCo\\xa0projects make science, technology, engineering, art, and math super fun! Get 50% off your first month plus FREE shipping on any crate line at\\xa0kiwico.com\\xa0with code\\xa0MOTHERHOOD.\\nStoryWorth\\xa0\\xa0gives your loved ones the gift of spending time together, wherever you live! Go to\\xa0storyworth.com/whatfreshhell to get $10 off.\\xa0\\xa0\\nBright Cellars\\xa0is the wine subscription box that pairs you with wine you'll love, delivered to your door. Get 50% off your first 6 bottle order by heading to\\xa0brightcellars.com/fresh.\\nProse\\xa0is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it!\\xa0\\xa0Get 15% off your first order today! Go to\\xa0prose.com/laughing.\\xa0\\nBarre3\\u2019s workouts combine\\xa0cardio, strength conditioning, and mindfulness in one workout.\\xa0Go to\\xa0barre3.com/FRESH\\xa0and enter promo code FRESH to unlock 75% off monthly and annual subscriptions.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"