Ask Margaret: Should I Help My Kids with Things I Know They Can Do Themselves?
b'Does your kid ask you to make their breakfast or do their laundry despite the fact that they know how to do these things? Where\'s the line between lending them a hand and waiting on them hand and foot?\\nListener Lindsay asks:\\n"Talk to me about how you field requests from your kids to \\u201chelp them\\u201d with things they\\u2019re old enough to do themselves. Like my 12 year old\\u2019s constant requests to make her breakfast, or my 6 year old who will often ask me to go fetch things for her that she forgot elsewhere in the house. I will often decline and tell them that they can do these things themselves\\u2026 but then I wonder \\u2014 couldn\\u2019t they say the same thing to me when I ask them for help? They\\u2019re always very willing to help me when I ask, and I know they are probably looking at these requests of me in the same light. How do I reciprocate their willingness to help me without teaching them learned helplessness? "\\nThere\'s no hard-and-fast rule for how much your kids should be doing around the house. As long as you contextualize the scenarios where you help for your kids, there\'s no harm in sometimes doing things for them if they\'re bogged down with homework or having a rough day.\\nLinks! \\nChildren\'s Hospital of Philadelphia blog: "Chores and Kids: How Much Should You Expect?"\\n\\nSpecial thanks to our sponsor, Pampers:\\nFor trusted protection, choose Pampers, the #1 Pediatrician Recommended Brand. Download the Pampers Club App today to start earning rewards with every diaper & wipes purchase.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'