Ask Amy: I've Already Got the End-of-Summer Scaries
b'Why is it that summer never seems to be the picture-perfect, sun-washed experience we want for our kids? Amy helps a listener ditch her mom guilt over not providing her kids with the "perfect" summer.\\n"I have the end of summer scaries.\\xa0Or end of summer mom guilt.\\xa0I feel so bummed that I have spent most of the summer in survival mode instead of really enjoying it with my children.\\xa0I probably have seen way too many of those "you only get 18 summers" posts.\\xa0My oldest starts first grade in two weeks and I feel like I completely failed.\\xa0I wish we had spent more time swimming, riding bikes, all of that quintessential summer stuff.\\xa0Instead, I feel like I\'ve spent most of it breaking up fights with his 4 year old brother, keeping the 18 month old from injuring himself, and saying "no" to every request.\\xa0\\nI\'m notoriously hard on myself so I probably just need a reality check.\\xa0Does anyone else feel this way?"\\nIt\'s totally normal to feel like the summer is a more difficult time of year, especially with three little kids to entertain, Amy explains. There are more hours of daylight and more unstructured time.\\nAnd, by the way, your kids don\'t vaporize once they turn 18, and if they\'re away at college, summer is when you WILL see them, at least somewhat more than you did during the school year. Try to decouple yourself from the overwhelming "you only get 18 summers with your kids" messaging. It robs you of the ability to remain present THIS summer with your kids.\\nSo how do you try and be present with your kids without worrying about how many summers you have left in the bank? Start super small. Declare that it\'s "ice cream dinner" tonight or let the kids cover the driveway in chalk drawings. The "summer memories" we\'re supposed to be making are by definition lazy and unstructured. And those little things we may think are nothing special are probably what our kids will look back on most fondly.\\nSpecial thanks to our sponsor, Pampers: \\nFor trusted protection, choose Pampers, the #1 Pediatrician Recommended Brand. Download the Pampers Club App today to start earning free diapers.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'