Ask Amy: How Should I Deal With Comments About My Kid's Size?
b"Here at What Fresh Hell we say there's no reason for anyone to comment on another person's size in a conversational setting. Ever. Including women who are (or who might appear) pregnant, and also including babies and kids who might appear either small or big for their chronological age.\\nThe latter is a course correction a lot of us might need to consider. What's the harm in saying a sweet little girl is teensy-tiny? Well, read the question of the week:\\nMy daughter is five, but the size of a three-year-old. She's teeny-tiny. How do you deal with other adults' comments about your child\\u2019s size? It\\u2019s infuriating to me that adults cannot stop making comments, from taxi drivers to her classmates' parents. It\\u2019s never other kids, at least not yet. \\nI usually just acknowledge how old she is and try to shut down the conversation, but I\\u2019d love a really good comeback to make them realize that commenting on children\\u2019s bodies is never a good idea! Something else to note: I actually am concerned about her size, and we are going to the endocrinologist next month. All these comments just add to my anxiety. But there\\u2019s a good chance this is just who my daughter is!\\nIn this episode, Amy gives this listener ideas of what to say both when her daughter is present for these comments, and when she isn't; plus how best to react when it's a stranger saying these things, versus a grandparent or teacher or other adult your child might see more frequently.\\nThese comments might not have hurtful intent behind them; we'd argue they usually don't. But they're still insensitive, and if the parent in this situation can react with honesty and a bit of grace, it might just result in a teachable moment that will have that person behave differently next time.\\nAmy references @feedinglittles on Instagram as a great resource for what to say in these moments.\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"