Are We Too Hard On Our Boys?
b'At school our sons keep it together. At home, flushing the toilet is well beyond their capability. This leads to a litany of \\u201churry up, put that down, stop doing that, start doing this\\u201d from their mothers. But are we too hard on our boys? We had an \\u201caha moment\\u201d after reading this question posed by parenting expert Wendy Mogel:\\n\\nWhat percentage of your communication with your son consists of nagging, reminding, chastising or yelling?\\n\\nWe\\u2019re going to respectfully decline to answer that question, as is our Fifth Amendment right. But we love Mogel\\u2019s solution: Talk to them like dogs. Really. Read the whole article; it\\u2019s a real perspective-changer. Mogel suggests that as our children\\u2019s lives become more intense and more structured, with ever-increasing homework when they finally get home, our boys are losing their chances to run and bark and chew on shoes (metaphorically). And that that\\u2019s leading to all sorts of issues.\\nIn this episode we discuss:\\n\\nhow studies have proven that we treat infant daughters and sons differently- even before they can speak\\nhow to fight against the parenting norms of what David Lancy calls \\u201cWEIRD societies\\u201d (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, Democratic)\\nwhy the key to our sons\\u2019 happiness can often be found in the garage\\nhow to be interested (really interested) in what our sons are interested in. Even if it\\u2019s Fortnite.\\n\\nHere\\u2019s links to studies and research and other things we discuss:\\nDavid Lancy in Human Relations Area Files: A Cross-Cultural Perspective on Childhood\\nAndrew Reiner for the NYT: Talking To Boys the Way We Talk To Girls\\nDr. Edward Tronick, et al, for Harvard Medical School and Developmental Psychology: Gender differences in emotional expressivity and self-regulation during early infancy\\nSt. Augustine Prep School website: Anxiety in Young Boys is Not Normal \\n2017 Emory study: Child gender influences paternal behavior and language \\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'