Give and Receive Feedback, Even When Its Uncomfortable
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In this solo episode, I\\u2019m diving into feedback. Here\\u2019s the thing about feedback, in general, for me \\u2014 I don\\u2019t always love it. But really, receiving feedback (and giving it) is so important to growth. I share my recent experience of receiving feedback from my editors on my latest manuscript, and how having a \\u201csweaty-palm\\u201d conversation really helped move me forward with integrating that feedback. We can all benefit from enhancing our capacity to give and receive feedback, so I have some strategies to move ourselves from a space of defensiveness and self-criticism, into a growth mindset and openness of receiving and accepting feedback.
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Key Takeaways:
[2:23] What stands between you and the relationships you really want to have with people is a 10-minute \\u2018sweaty-palm\\u2019 conversation you\'re too afraid to have \\u2014 but they\'re such a critical part of every single relationship.
[3:21] There are two primary areas where you might have a \\u2018sweaty-palm\\u2019 conversation \\u2014 conflict and feedback.
[7:00] When we get feedback from someone, there are often three beats that go off in our heads simultaneously. 1) Defensiveness, 2) Self-criticism or self-loathing, 3) Growth mindset.
[20:34] We don\\u2019t give or receive nearly as much feedback as we probably need to. Why? Because we\\u2019re uncomfortable.
[22:09] How can you get more feedback in the way that you want? Ask for it.
[24:07] Feedback is more a function of the relationship than the way the feedback is given. It takes time to cultivate a relationship to that level of trust where feedback can be freely given and received.
[25:06] We can set up an environment both in our minds and in our relationships where we can receive feedback from others openly and with a growth mindset.
[30:34] We can all benefit from enhancing our capacity to give and receive feedback.
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Resources:
Purchase Bring Your Whole Self to Work and gain access to bonus material
Bring Your Whole Self to Work, by Mike Robbins
We\'re All in This Together, by Mike Robbins (Pre-order on Amazon)
WTF with Marc Maron Podcast Episode 909: \\u201cBradley Whitford\\u201d
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