"No" Is Your Superpower
I've said it before, and I'll say it again -- saying NO is hard, particularly when we're taught that putting others' needs and wants before our own is a sign of a good person. But what does it cost you when you try to be nice and accommodating to everyone? More stress, more anxiety, stretched resources? Why do people have such a difficult time saying no?
\nWe all want to please others, and when it comes to our loved ones and friends, we will always put their needs before our own. Being kind is about doing the right thing but being nice and saying yes all the time is about doing what you think others want you to do. In our society, the line between the two has become very blurred.
\nIn this episode, I teach you to use "No" as your greatest superpower. That said, I would not ask you to stop helping people, but I would tell you how and why to put yourself first at all times!
\nWe'll learn:
\n\u25cf We discuss the book - Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes, and I talk about the opposite of what she explains through her book.
\n\u25cf Nice is pleasing and agreeable, but kind is just being considerate or helpful.
\n\u25cf Authenticity is about hearing the background noise sometimes. Do not overcommit yourself to things you don't really want to do.
\n\u25cf It's okay to change your mind when you realize you want to be kind and not nice.
\n\u25cf If you were to do something that you don't really want to do, there might be a sense of not being really in it fully, not being enthusiastic. By doing this, you're bringing that energy to the project and the other person.
\n\u25cf If you work hard, you need to rest hard. Life is always telling us this - recharge yourself when required.
\n\u25cf Sometimes, you have to sacrifice some things. You have to learn to take care of yourself first.
\nResources Mentioned:
\n\u25cf Book - Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes
\n\u25cf People -
\n\u25cb Stevie Wonder (artist)
\n\u25cb Oprah Winfrey (American talk show host, television producer, actress, author, and philanthropist.)
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