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b"For the past few years, I\\u2019ve been hearing about this concept called \\u201cdeclarative language,\\u201d and although I had an idea of what it was, after reading my guest Linda Murphy\\u2019s Declarative Language Handbook, I couldn\\u2019t wait to bring her on the show because it offers another transformational tool for our parenting differently wired kids\\u2019 toolbox.\\xa0\\nLinda describes declarative language as a positive, thoughtful communication style that emphasizes understanding, patience, respect, and kindness, and as you\\u2019ll hear from our conversation, it is an ideal communication style for really all children, but especially neurodivergent children and kids whose nervous systems are triggered by demands or more imperative communication styles.\\nWe discussed the different ways we can communicate with our children, the language we use, and the effects that simple shifts in the way we have conversations can have in our daily interactions with them. We also explored what is declarative language versus imperative language, as well as the relationship between co-regulation and declarative language and why we should use them in tandem.\\xa0\\nLinda K. Murphy MS, CCC-SLP is a speech language pathologist and RDI\\xae Consultant. She co-founded Peer Projects - Therapy From the Heart, a clinic in Beverly, MA dedicated to helping kids and families by using a positive, thoughtful communication style that emphasizes understanding, patience, respect, and kindness. Linda has been working with individuals with social learning differences for over 25 years. She leads trainings on the topic of social learning, has authored Declarative Language Handbook, Co-Regulation Handbook, numerous articles, and co-authored the book Social Thinking and Me with Michelle Garcia Winner.\\xa0\\nThings you'll learn from this episode\\n\\nWhat it means to use declarative language (versus imperative language)\\n\\nWhy declarative language is so effective for neurodivergent children, and especially those who are wired to be more demand avoidance\\n\\nWhy declarative language is more effective when paired with co-regulation\\n\\nCommon language and communication styles that place demands on kids that we may not be aware of (including questions)\\n\\nHow to introduce declarative language communication and how it can support a child\\u2019s learning and development\\n\\nWhat we can hope to see in a child or an adolescent that has been on the receiving end of this style of communication\\n\\nWhat to say instead of \\u201cDid you hear what I said\\u201d?\\xa0\\n\\nResources mentioned\\n\\nLinda Murphy\\u2019s website\\n\\n\\nDeclarative Language Handbook: Using a Thoughtful Language Style to Help Kids with Social Learning Challenges Feel Competent, Connected, and Understood by Linda K. Murphy\\n\\nDeclarative Language website\\n\\nDeclarative Language on Facebook\\n\\nDeclarative Language on Instagram\\n\\nOne Exchange at a Time (from Linda\\u2019s blog)\\n\\nSupport the show\\nConnect with Tilt Parenting\\n\\n\\nVisit Tilt Parenting\\n\\nTake the free 7-Day Challenge\\n\\n\\n\\nRead a chapter of Differently Wired\\n\\n\\nFollow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram\\n\\n\\n\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"