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b"My guest for this episode is the brilliant Julie Lythcott-Haims., the author of the New York Times\\u2019 bestselling, and in my opinion, majorly game-changing-in-the-parenting-space book, How to Raise an Adult. She wrote it after noticing that prospective college students at Stanford University, where she was dean of admissions, were being over-parented and as a result, were lacking the resources to develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success.\\nIn this episode, Julie and I talk about what it takes for a child to be successful\\u2014looking at how we define success along the way\\u2014and explore what we as parents can do to help our child develop the agency they need to become self-actualized adults. I loved having this conversation with Julie and am still noodling on the many takeaways and aha moments I experienced. I hope you get a lot out of it.\\n\\xa0Julie Lythcott-Haims' How to Raise an Adult has been published in over two dozen countries and gave rise to a TED talk that became one of the top TED Talks of 2016 with over 3.5 million views and counting, as well as a forthcoming sequel on how to be an adult, for young adults. Two years later Julie published Real American: A Memoir, a critically-acclaimed and award-winning memoir which examines racism through her experience as a Black and biracial person.\\n\\xa0Things you\\u2019ll learn from this episode\\n\\nWhat is at the root of fear-based parenting\\n\\nWhy Julie says most parents are raising kids from a place of love, ego, and fear\\n\\nChallenges and hardships every child should face in order to be ready to be an adult\\n\\nHow we do our children a disservice when we \\u201cbecome\\u201d their default executive functioning\\n\\nHow we can (and need to) redefine what success looks like\\n\\nThe connection between successful adults and a child doing chores (and how to get started if you\\u2019re not doing it now)\\n\\nWhy happiness in our kids stems from love\\n\\nThe benefits of hands-on work for kids developing a sense of agency\\n\\nHow to help our kids bolster their self-advocacy skills\\n\\n\\xa0\\nResources mentioned for helping differently wired teens launch\\n\\nJulie Lythcott Haims\\u2019 website\\n\\n\\nHow to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success\\xa0\\n\\n\\nReal American: A Memoir\\xa0\\n\\n\\nJulie\\u2019s TED Talk: How to Raise Successful Kids\\n\\nJulie\\u2019s TEDxGunnHighSchool Talk: Throw Out the Checklisted Childhood\\n\\nJulie\\u2019s TEDxStanford Talk: Be Your Authentic Self\\n\\n\\nHow to Be An Adult\\xa0\\n\\n\\n\\nSupport the showConnect with Tilt Parenting\\n Visit Tilt Parenting\\n Take the free 7-Day Challenge \\n Read a chapter of Differently Wired \\n Follow Tilt on Twitter & Instagram \\n \\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices"