Podcasts Education Therapy Unfiltered with Mom and Me Ep. 26: How To Create a Safe Container for Open Communication in Relationships

Ep. 26: How To Create a Safe Container for Open Communication in Relationships

Published: June 14, 2021, 3 a.m.

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We hope you enjoy this weeks episode of Therapy Unfiltered where we dive into all about creating a safe container for open communication in all relationships.

What\\u2019s New:\\xa0
Petey -Join the Soul Learners Waitlist...membership opening the end of this month.
Sarah -\\xa0 Yoga Under the Stars this Friday, come one come all\\xa0 - Friday, June 18 at 7:30pm

Quirky Insight:\\xa0
Petey- Paula, Sally, Julie and Alice are 30-50 yr. Relationships that have been safe containers for me in this life. I can not talk with them for even 2 or 3 yrs because of life happening and we pick up right where we left off. There\\u2019s no judgement, no critique\\u2026.only unconditional love and respect and empathy. Everyone is coming from good intentions and it is received that way. There\\u2019s no hidden agendas or dysfunctional lens...just true love and respect.

Sarah - my relationship with my dad felt unsafe - he was an alcoholic, disconnected and a logical communicator. Always ready to argue and dismiss my feelings. So I learned to hold back and push down uncomfortable emotions when I was with him. Over the years, I have learned more about setting boundaries and creating a safe environment for not just others but for me. I say things more clearly and I use I language more than you.\\xa0


Why isn\\u2019t it safe to share?

People are defensive - Fear of judgement - they are too fragile and vulnerable, fear of critique can take someone down to depression or fill them with anxiety and they have inability to function with the overwhelm.

Low self-esteem / preconceived thought that they are less than and not good enough-feel if they\\u2019re on the defense then they\\u2019re not opening themself up to hurt as much.\\xa0

Person gossips and is not a vault, Why gossip? Distracts from self, sensationalized so they sound better, learned from patterns growing up.

But it establishes trust issues / violation or betrayal.


\\xa0Here are 9 ways To Create a Safe Container for Open Communication in Relationships

1. Focus on what you do want, not what you don\\u2019t

2. Say The Thing.

3. Use a soft start-up

4. Be mindful of going down a negative path

5. Find out if your partner needs empathy or advice

6. Eliminate blame.\\xa0

7. Mutual respect.

8. Seek to repair & reconnect after disagreements.

9. Practice non-defensive listening.

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Affirmation: I speak my truth freely and openly. My intentions are clear and my voice reflects this in my relationships.

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LET\\u2019S STAY CONNECTED!

Petey

Sarah

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