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Being good is not enough\n\nMost of our default thinking is that if we\u2019re a good person it will be enough. That\u2019s just not true!\n\nYou can be a good person and a piss poor husband\nYou can be a good person and a lousy lover\nYou can be a good person and a poor loser\nYou could be a good person and be terribly unproductive\nYou can be a good person and a lousy listener\nYou could be a good person distracted absent father\nYou can be a good person and a terrible businessman\nYou can be a good person and a very Foolish investor\nYou can be a good person and a flimsy friend\nYou can be a good person and an unresponsive son\nYou can be a good person and totally ignorant and uneducated\nYou can be a good person and clueless to what\u2019s going on around you and the needs of other people\n\nNow if you\u2019re not good at tennis, that\u2019s OK. \nIf you want to be good at it you can work on it. \nIf you don\u2019t want to be good at it then you don\u2019t have to do anything.\n\nBut that\u2019s not true of the other areas of your life like marriage and parenting and work and contribution and connection\n\nIn my mind working on those skills is nonnegotiable.\n\nIf you have children, for example, then you have A moral obligation to become a good parent with fully developed parenting skills\n\nIf you want to have a great marriage, healthy kids, and a good relationship with them, if you want to have friends, if you want to make a difference in the world, if you work, then you simply cannot settle for merely being a good person\n\nWe have to stop sucking at the things that really matter especially if it\u2019s because we\u2019re succeeding in the things that don\u2019t