Episode 94: Listener Favorite: Not Your F*cking Job!
b'This week I am re-airing a listener favorite episode - Not Your F*cking Job. Want equal partnership? Let\'s start with not taking on impossible tasks -- and then being blamed for not being able to accomplish them. Listen to this episode for more!\\nA few weeks ago, I posted in my Facebook group that I was going to write a flipbook called, Not Your Fucking Job. And it was going to be a very simple book about all the things that are not your fucking job to do for your spouse or partner. You know, things like:\\nHelping him heal his childhood wounds?NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB.\\nTeaching him how to be a good parent?NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB.\\nProving your worth or proving your love to him?NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB.Or keeping him from cheating on you?NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB.\\nYou get the idea.\\xa0\\nWell, in this week\\u2019s episode I am going to go through about 8-10 scenarios of things that are not your fucking job and explain why you need to stop carrying allll of the weight in your relationship.\\xa0\\xa0\\nAfter you listen to this episode; if you realize you are doing these things, understand you are doing them out of some need to control.\\xa0So what IS your job: to uncover why you\\u2019re doing these things and then work to fix it, for you \\u2014 not for him or for anyone else, for you. Only in this way will you have a chance at healing your marriage, or having an amicable divorce.\\nHere are just a few of the topics I touch on in this episode:\\n\\nWhy it\\u2019s not your job to heal your partner\\u2019s childhood wounds\\xa0\\n\\nAllowing your partner to make mistakes and clean up his (or her) own messes\\n\\nA reminder that it is not your job to beg him to love you or treat you well\\n\\nWhy it\\u2019s not your job to lose weight, gain weight, dye your hair or get a boob job in order to feel as though you are enough for someone. Only do these things if you WANT to, for you!\\xa0\\n\\nWhat IS your job in your relationship\\n\\nResources & Links:\\nROOTED LIVE is coming!\\xa0If you think you might want out of your marriage, but you can\\u2019t seem to find the courage to make a decision once and for all, and you\\u2019re scared you won\\u2019t have the strength to get through all that comes after you say those four words, "I want a divorce,\\u201d then ROOTED is 100% for you.\\nROOTED is my online coaching program which I will be taking LIVE in February.\\xa0It\\u2019s designed to help you FIND YOUR STRENGTH, BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE, AND STEP INTO YOUR POWER. Learn more here.\\n Fed Up, Gemma HartleyCo-Dependent No More, Meldoy Beattie\\n DSG Episode: NOW...he wants to go to therapy?\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'