Episode 91: A Divorce Story: Coming out, Infidelity, and Divorce with Jessica Frew

Published: Oct. 13, 2020, 5:35 p.m.

Jessica Frew is the co-host of the podcast Husband In Law.\xa0Along with her husband and ex-husband, they share their stories of love, marriage, coming out, infidelity, divorce, and co-parenting. Jessica and her ex-husband were married for just over a year when he came to terms with the fact he was gay.\xa0They then remained married for another seven years.\xa0In this episode, Jessica shares her extremely unique and openly loving story of divorce.\xa0\nShow Highlights\n\nJessica\u2019s unique and wonderful experience with divorce and co-parenting. (2:19)\n\nThe boundaries shift with almost any co-parenting relationship. (4:32)\n\nWhy it\u2019s important to not compare your divorce with another. (6:15)\n\nUnderstanding your partner\u2019s issues are not about you. (9:07)\n\nHow has being an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has affected Jessica and her co-parenting relationship with her husband. (11:54)\n\nThere is more freedom in personal responsibility. (23:36)\n\nNavigating religious culture in the face of divorce. (29:02)\n\nLearn More About Jessica Frew\nMy ex-husband (Steve) and I were married for just over a year when he came to terms with the fact he was gay.\xa0We stayed married for another 7 years.\xa0We were happily married but there was a side of Steve that he needed to explore and be authentic to. When we divorced, we discussed how we wanted our divorce to look for ourselves and for our daughter. We have been able to stick to that plan.\xa0I have been remarried now for 6 years and have 2 step kids.\xa0My husband (Matt) and Steve get along as well.\xa0We do birthdays, family dinners, holidays, and vacations together.\xa0They even take our girls out on double dates.\xa0It is such a blessing.\xa0Matt's ex-wife does not like us, despite our efforts to have a good relationship with her.\xa0We have learned to set firm boundaries in order to protect ourselves and our children.\xa0I have learned so much about what it really means to be a stepmom.\xa0I have learned to let go of control to not take offense when mud is slung my way.\xa0It is a hard roll to find your place in because it is one you never expect to hold.\xa0Together my husband, ex-husband, and I are sharing our stories of love, marriage, coming out, infidelity, divorce, and co-parenting in our Podcast Husband in Law.\xa0We are doing this to help individuals view themselves and others in a new light so that they can see not only their own self-worth but also the worth of others.\xa0We are changing how people view themselves and others to create more understanding and stronger relationships.\xa0\nResources & Links:\nConnect with Jessica\nJessica on Instagram\n Podcast Husband in Law\xa0\nJessica on Facebook\n The Ultimate Divorce Survival Guide\nShould I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices