Episode 87: "Am I the Abuser?" with Rhian Lockard
A huge realization for many women going through divorce is around the emotional abuse they\u2019ve suffered in their marriage. In my program, we have an entire module dedicated to uncovering and understanding this, part of which is hosted by my guest today, Rhian Lockard.\xa0\nInvariably, as women dive more deeply into the work of uncovering emotional abuse, they are struck with the question, \u201cWait, am I the abuser?\u201d\xa0\nThis week, my friend and colleague Rhian Lockard returns to the podcast to help answer that very question. (Spoiler: if you\u2019re asking the question, you\u2019re not the abuser.)\nRhian is a multi-certified life coach who specializes in supporting her clients out of toxic relationships with themselves and others. In this episode, Rhian helps us to understand the difference between being the abuser and being someone backed into a corner trying to save themselves from a very real threat.\xa0\nShow Highlights\n\nIf you are asking the question, \u201cAm I the abuser?\u201d, you\u2019re not the abuser.\xa0(3:56)\n\nSomeone who is emotionally abusive is seeking control from a relationship and not love or connection. (5:55)\n\nThe fatal trait of a narcissist is that they want love but refuse to do the self-work. (16:02)\n\nBecause you are not the abuser does not mean you don\u2019t have toxic qualities. (18:03)\n\nHow and why we start to behave in alignment with how our relationship is set up. (31:43)\n\nHow do you get out of a toxic relationship? (35:39)\n\nWhy you should go to therapy yourself, first. (41:48)\n\nHow women can take back their innate sense of knowing. (48:14)\n\nLearn More About Rhian Lockhard:\nRhian Lockard is a multi-certified life coach who specializes in supporting her clients out of toxic relationships with themselves and others.\xa0\nResources & Links:Rhian\u2019s websites: Rhianlockard.com and Moonstonewitchery.com\nRhian on Facebook\n Rhian\u2019s previous appearance on The Divorce Survival Guide\nRhian\u2019s YouTube Video - Am I the Abuser?\nLook for Rhian's podcast - What Is Love? - on your favorite podcast streaming app!\xa0\n The Ultimate Divorce Survival Guide\n Should I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices