Episode 49: What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway? with Jonathon Aslay
This week, Jonathon Aslay, America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach, joins me to discuss the importance of learning how to love yourself. In this episode, Jonathon shares his divorce story and his journey to self-love, and how that journey prepared him for the biggest hardship yet to come. His story is a powerful testament to personal development and self-work.\nAs you\u2019ve heard me say before, there was a (large) part of me that died in my marriage. And I will say it again and again, the greatest gift to myself (and to my ex) was to leave my marriage.\xa0As Jonathon so eloquently put it, \u201cThis experience called life, is our experience first.\u201d\xa0It\u2019s okay to end a relationship that does not serve you or your partner. Our conversation today is a great reminder that there are ways to coexist but not stay married, and ways to begin a journey of experiencing life on your own terms.\xa0\nI\u2019ll leave you some of Jonathon\u2019s words of wisdom, \u201cDivorce is the unraveling of one\u2019s former tapestry and that takes its toll. If one chooses to begin to work on themselves, they will be much more prepared when it happens.\u201d\xa0\n(And, shameless plug, this is exactly what we do in my program!)\n\xa0Show Highlights\n\nJonathon\u2019s experience with divorce and what he had hoped he learned about marriage beforehand (5:00)\n\nThrough relationships we learn about ourselves (9:29)\n\nSome things men and women do that scream, \u201cI\u2019m wounded and haven\u2019t healed yet!\u201d (10:00)\n\nHis online dating addiction after divorce and how he transformed from living life from an egoic place to how he now sees and experiences life; through the eyes of love (13:18)\n\nIf you are on a spiritual path and your partner is not, what do you do? (17:06)\n\nStaying in a marriage \u2018out of obligation\u2019 and why that\u2019s not enough (21:03)\n\nMen are nesters in a relationship and women are the container of the heart for a relationship; plus what that all means (21:33)\n\nEmotional connections and why communication is a skill we don\u2019t readily have (27:00)\n\nIt\u2019s a daily practice to invest in oneself, because it begins to strengthen us from the inside out (32:31)\n\nHow the daily investing in himself prepared Jonathon for a devastating loss, the loss of his 19-year old son (35:41)\n\nWhether we\u2019re grieving loss of child, parent, loved one, job or marriage, the work we do on ourselves prepares us (38:00)\n\nPersonal development is not just for women, self-love and self-help is for everyone (43:00)\n\nLearn More About Jonathon:\nThe focus of one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE.\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\nAfter losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay\u2019s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation.\xa0\xa0\xa0\nHe realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love.\xa0\xa0\xa0\xa0\nToday, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"\u2014packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices\u2014and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world.\xa0\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices