Episode 35: He Did You a Favor with Debra Rogers
b'This week I welcome Debra Rogers to the podcast. Debra is a writer, blogger, break-up coach and speaker. She is the author of, He Did You A Favor. And she is also one of my real-life friends!\\xa0Fun-fact about today\\u2019s episode, this is the first face-to-face interview I\\u2019ve done. And it was so.much.fun!\\xa0\\nIn this episode, Debra and I talk about divorce (obviously), more specifically how she handled the break-up of what she refers to as a \\u201c fairy-tale marriage.\\u201d Plus, she shares openly about her 5-year journey to self-discovery following her divorce. Finally, she teaches how to overcome rough break-ups and grow into the person you were meant to be.\\nShow Highlights\\n\\nThe knowledge that your spouse can be doing the best they can and it still not be good enough for you. You can move on from it (7:22)\\n\\nDebra talks about her book, He Did You A Favor, and what the title really means (14:15)\\n\\nThe anagram GIFT and how it can help, plus knowing that there is a choice\\u2014you can either stay in victimhood or choose to redirect and look for the favor or the gift (17:45)\\n\\nDebra\\u2019s interesting and eye-opening journey of hiring (and firing) a divorce attorney (21:14)\\n\\nHow to become a good friend with your ex: yes, it is possible, but you have to be ready (31:23)\\n\\nGetting triggered, ongoing therapy, and the act of healing (42:27)\\n\\nHolding your intention for having a healthy co-parenting relationship (47:05)\\n\\nLearn More About Debra:\\nWith years of dating and break up experience, including one crushing break up at eight months pregnant (which evolved into a supportive divorce and loving friendship), Debra has earned her relationship MBA.\\nAs \\u201cThe Ex Expert\\u2122\\u201d she\\u2019s passionate about helping others get over their ex, take back their life, and become the person they\\u2019re meant to be.\\nDebra offers her relationship expertise as a regular blogger on the Huffington Post and Digital Romance. She\\u2019s also contributed to Gal Time, Relationship Headquarters, and has been recently featured in The Washington Post, Fit Pregnancy and Never Liked It Anyway. She\\u2019s appeared at the LA Festival of Books, the Women\\u2019s Journey Conference, and The Ultimate Women\\u2019s Expo. She\\u2019s also guested on 25+ radio shows and has helped hundreds of men and women get over their breakup and get past self-doubt. Debra\\u2019s heartfelt, humorous, tough-love advice has guided others into stepping into their power, passion, and purpose.\\nHer book, He Did You a Favor has won high praise as well as numerous awards including: The Independent Publisher Award, the Next Generation Indie Award, and the Indie Reader Discovery Award (named as \\u201cOne of the best books of 2014\\u201d). He Did You a Favor has been featured in Shape Magazine as one of their \\u201cTop 10 Winter Reads\\u201d and in She Knows as \\u201cOne of the top 7 books to read on Valentine\\u2019s night.\\u201d\\nBefore He Did You a Favor, Debra worked the studio circuit for years as a script analyst and Development Associate for both film and television.\\xa0Her passion for story was further expanded as a writing consultant for numerous motion picture and television writers through her company Your Best Writing Now. She\\u2019s been a beloved board member for ScriptWrights, a prestigious LA writer\\u2019s group and is currently on the Creative Advisory Board at West LA College. \\xa0\\nShe\\u2019s also built a successful voiceover career in 25+ film and television shows including: Disney\\u2019s Lilo & Stitch and Leroy & Stitch. She\\u2019s voiced strong, powerful women in Giant Robo, Streetfighter and Xena: Warrior Princess. Through her life experience, she discovered her own inner warrior and found that the strong heroines she\\u2019d been voicing were also within her. Debra\\u2019s now a warrior for others. She\\u2019s become a catalyst for change in people\\u2019s lives, both as a writer and as a coach.\\nDebra currently lives in the Los Angeles area with her amazing daughter and has finally found true love. She is currently writing the follow-up books in her Did You a Favor series.'